New Entrepreneurs

Welcome to Mini Miracles from Minor Moments where every week Linda brings us a new 10-15 minute theme for self development and insight.   Our Podcasts are growing and changing so hopefully you will continue to follow us as we go forward into a new and evolving format to include regular interviews and co-hosts.  

This weeks guest is Angela Pletz who is a local community member of Mini Miracles Cafe, an entrepreneurial group that meets to encourage and go forward into building wonderful businesses.   Let’s hear Angela, who will be hopefully returning to us in the near future so we can learn more of her goals and aspirations.

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Summer Changes

Jim Haisler introduces us to the upcoming series beginning next week on Entrepreneurial Women.  Recordings are already in the process and will be encouraging to others trying to take the step into developing a business.

Today Linda talks about self care and the  things to keep us moving forward this summer. She ends with a reflection on the need for reflection and prayer time.  Hope you enjoy this mix of insights for the coming weeks.

The Maze of Resolving Problems

What you’ll discover in this weeks podcast my offer you some insights about maintaining, growing, and resolving problems! 


  • Tearing down the chimney.
  • Rebuilding a wall.
  • Watching kids play in sand
  • Addressing issues with coaching
  • Overcoming addictions by taking action to create new habits.

Hi, You’re listening to Mini Miracles from Minor Moments with Linda Gullo.   This is Podcast # 54.   Welcome as we unfold a few stories about rebuilding.   Rebuilding things physically and then addressing how to rebuild and renew your own life to the fullest.

We all have learned ways of moving forward when it comes to making decisions.   What is your system for resolving issues?  Do you have system in place?  Perhaps you do the PRO and CON lists?  What you’ll discover in this weeks podcast my offer you some insights about maintaining, growing, and resolving problems!
This week there continues to be a great deal of action happeningat our home.  The hedges that create a boundary between the street and a fence to our yard are being trimmed.  It takes a couple men several hours to trim the top 20 inches of growth.  It is only May and will probably need another clipping during the summer.   Well the crew to trim them came earlier in the week and got the street side complete as the rain began to come down.  Now several days later the bushes were still in need of being completed, when I saw the men arriving this morning.  I was indeed pleased that they were following through.  When things need to be completed it seems like another thing on my to do list.   I like to follow through and see that goals are accomplished.
Two weeks ago I noticed a change in the family room flooring and called in a builder that I trust for some advice. It was discovered that moisture was between a portion of our lower siding and the foundation.   Apparently river rock was too close to the wall.  It required removing the rocks and relocating them.  One of my older grandkids came to help me do that project!  I was pleased that he is strong and was able to carry the rock to another part of our yard.
The builder was also checking out the roof and in the process of seeing where the dampness was coming from, our gutters were cleaned and blown out.   On the roof was a carcass of a rabbit that had become a meal for a bird of prey, probably it was an Owl or Hawk that had visited us and decided our roof was a good place to set up his dinner.   It was a sloppy eater however, and left parts of its dinner on the roof that needed to be cleaned up as well.  So the roof was washed down and the gutters cleaned out well.
Upon further inspection the brick surfaces of our chimney were showing wear and tear over the last 43 years.   Yes, you guessed the rest of this story!   The chimney needed to be replaced.  The name of man who specializes in Masonry work was given to me.  He came and found that while the mortar was in place, the integrity of the brick had been giving way.   We had the option of waiting a few years or addressing the problem now.   We decided now was the time to rebuild the chimney.   As you might expect, brick had to be selected to match our home and set up to remove and replace the chimney began.   He built an elaborate scaffold to go up and down with concrete and bricks.  Fast forward after several days of rain to finally days without rain, and the process began.
The pounding was excessive to break it apart and take the old chimney parts away.   Our poor dog,  Miss Rosy could not understand who was on our roof or intruding into her space.  In an attempt to relieve some of her anxiety I took her to the office for a couple of hours.   Several of my neighbors are not around on Wednesdays, so it was quiet.   She curled up in her bed next to me and took a snooze.   It was a bit quieter when we returned home, but she curled up next to me once more and seemed to recognize that even though there was some activity going on nearby it was much better.   Guess we all need to take breaks from stress and go hideout for a few hours.
The man who originally diagnosed the initial issues,  returned to cut away a section of insulation and boards underneath the siding.  It was then aired out, insulated, and put in plastic barriers to prevent damage to our inside wood flooring. Things have once again come back together at the Gullo homestead.
If you’ve ever watched kids playing in the sand along a beach near water, they become artists. The castles and houses they build are formed with great intent, adding in roads and pools of water.   Then swoosch  the waves arrive and the creations are instantly destroyed.
I am telling you about the things that are created must often be lost so bigger, better, and more up-to-date options can take their place. Once things are completed or changed out, we accommodate and see them as normal.
I have listened to those who have won over addictions.  Addictions are hard to break.  It may take numerous attempts to change the habits and patterns that keep people addicted.   Often they are aware of their addiction, but believe it isn’t that bad or really necessary to take action.  Information means nothing until it is acted upon.  Resolutions, work, accountability, and support help us through such transitions.
Resolutions to cleaning up overgrown hedges and replacing old chimney’s may be easier to fix then the more abstract and mental thoughts that plague us.   Being creative and building imaginary castles from sand may be the fun times to take our minds off of the everyday stresses.  The sounds of splashing water on a beach or the rain pouring over a skylight really are not in our control.  We can see them as refreshing or threatening.  So the water can destroy our sandcastles, but one can laugh and giggle and begin again or get mad and frustrated.   Changing our reaction can be as simple as changing our thought patterns.  We can reframe the things that bother us.
But to truly make progress toward developing workable patterns in our lives is important.   Take the pianist who has practices the same song over and over again to get the timing and melody just right, we too need to practice.   We need to change our habits by repeating new ones.   We need to break away from injurious thought  like the ones that cause us to keep us addicted to bad behaviors.  We need to understand the thoughts we have in our heads are the ones that can lead us into better actions and into better places.
If you have ever watched a duck swimming along in the water what do you see?  They seem to glide effortlessly along the surface.  They have been doing it since they were tiny ducklings.  They have been practicing and learning where it is safe to swim.   Like ducks we need to let things roll off our backs, to deal with rain upon our heads, and to be able to swim great lengths.  Yes we need to have learned who is safe and where to go for help.   Maybe today is a good day to think about your next step in moving ahead.   “Just one step may put you on the escalator of success!”
Join me in the coming weeks as I interview women entrepreneurs who with minor moments of clarity and insight have begun seeing Mini Miracles explode in their lives.  
Until then “Delight in Living” and have a great week!   Bye for now. 

 

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Overcoming Discouragement & See Mini Miracles Emerge

Hi, Hope your week has gone well.  This is Linda Gullo and I am delighted to be with you.   Welcome to Mini Miracles from Minor Moments where a few tiny changes can escalate in your life and create monumental JOYS.  Our small daily habits can add up to make us vibrant and alive.

Mini Miracles from Minor Moments is designed to help you find insights about yourself.  My plan is to help you like yourself and love life.  I think there are so many things we share in common that are often not talked about so today I am tackling one of those topics.

Everyone goes through periods of uncertainty and inaction, but no one tells us how to navigate through them. We flounder and get frustrated.    Sometimes we give up, because it is just too overwhelming.  Yesterday, I wrote down a series of questions while I was praying about things, I needed to talk to God about these issues and asked for insight on 5 or 6 thoughts. Something was holding me back from taking action or maybe I didn’t even know where to begin.   That is when I need to go to the mountain top and discuss it in private with the Lord.

As I was leaving the Chapel, I said to one of the people walking out with me that I didn’t feel like I had resolution to a series of questions I was praying about.   Jokingly she said, “Well you know how men are, they sometimes take time to answer.”  She then turned to her husband and said, “no offense Dear.”

Well, I wasn’t even giving God the chance to respond!  And of course, I didn’t really expect immediate help.   None of my issues were with regard to a life and death crisis.  I did feel frustrated with my lack of progress in a few areas.

Then this morning, I woke up with some clarity on the matter.  I got up hearing our lawn was being cut and began to tackle the day with a good attitude.  I was grateful that the storms had passed through and that things seemed to be well.  The branches that had been dropped when the trees self pruned that night were being collected and the yard looked so nice when I viewed it awhile later.  It was vibrant and green.  We are all called to be vibrant too. How can we encourage ourselves to be alive, stand so tall as fresh grass, and be resilient?  Where do we get the nutrients that we need–after all we can’t just sprinkle on the things we need like the gardener gives to his or her plants.

It made me think that we need to be independent and strong, but not go it alone.   We are stronger when united with other people.  We get courage and strength when we are with people who have gone through the journey and gained wisdom.   Their insights can provide so much for us.  Looking for groups that will give us a chance to shine is just as important.  Don’t doubt for a minute that you aren’t brilliant.  You too have learned from academia, reading books, and experience.   You are meant to share that knowledge with other people as well.

I am convinced that the social media sites are places people go to for connecting with people of power and insight.   I know for me, it has lead me to learn about products, great new books to read, and to see how empathetic people are present for one another.   Some of social media can be a waste of time to be sure and there are negative media messages, but that is where we are asked to discern and be prudent about what we take in or waste our time looking at!

My love for business has grown enormously in the last 20 years.   As a matter of fact my business turned 20 this past January and I haven’t begun celebrating that yet.  I just realized that there are many things even small things that are significant that I have failed to celebrate. How does one do that?  Maybe you can let me know?   I am grateful to be here and doing the work I so love!

I began reading a great article from Andy Andrews blog this morning that had been delivered to my mailbox.  (https:www.andyandrews.com/overcome-discouragement) It is on How to Overcome Discouragement and Live the Life You Were Made to Live.   I really liked the way he approached taking back a healthier frame of mind when one gets distracted and discouraged.  Please read it if you are in such a place.  It is very elevating and encouraging.

I have noted its location on lindagullo.com website  with the notes from this program. (see above)

I received a small gold pin this week for being part of the American Counseling Association as a member for over 20 years.   It was such a timely recognition, in lieu of reading this article.  I was really surprised and almost embarrassed that I did not blow my horn and shout with glee that I have built Delight  in Living from scratch.   And wow, I am so pleased that someone noticed. It is indeed a milestone for me.  Thank you to all the people who have come here for guidance and hope.  I can really see the value of the little gold stars that we get as children for accomplishing our daily chores or excelling in school.   The visual reward is a positive one.

And I did learn a long time ago that when things are good they balance out the times that were less so.  I guess that is even a better reason  to keep highlighting and celebrating when things are well.

When I started this endeavor I began a file of cards and thank you’s.  I did it to have addresses so I could respond to people over the years, but instead it became a highlight to refer back to when things were slow in the office.  

You have potential to do outstanding things and influence others in a wonderful way.  Transform your year for yourself and those around you! It is now Mid May and we have over 7 months left to do great things.  Pursue your dreams and continually set new goals for yourself.  Use time to pray, meditate, and read whenever you find it.  Talk things through with a reliable source and hear yourself say what you are thinking.  Create a space for self development and take the opportunity to forgive, dance, and live fully.  Have a great weekend and enjoy the week ahead as you step forward.  Remember that a “single step may put you on the escalator of success!”  I will see you next week with some information on the news series of guests.   Search out the Mini Miracles and celebrate each one!

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You Are Feeling Top Notch

Hi this is Linda Gullo welcoming you to Mini Miracles from Minor Moments where the smallest moments can add up to make your days full of joy.   This is Podcast # 52 on Forging ahead through times of trouble.   We’d be foolish to think that all of life is easy, but life is challenging and it is hard to stay on top of it all.

For many of us our faith in God and living with wholesome values helps us stay on task.  So where does your strength come from?   Is it God?   Is it people around you?  Those at work?   or Family members?

Perhaps it comes in the form of reading good books?   Often the brief escape into a Fictional piece of writing helps you filter things out in your head.   OR  you run to books filled with advice and hopefully learn from them?
I wrote a book several years ago called Erasing Adversity.   IT was a book about the story of a man who underwent a series of medical issues following a life altering brain injury and how treatment, perseverance, and scrambling for resolution took a toll on the family around him.    It was a book that was meant to give hope.  It was to be relatable to everyone whether they have cancer, go bankrupt, or encounter grief of any kind.  The need to read and share these sadnesses are meant to encourage one another.

I have a sign in my office that reads “all things are temporary!”   We need to dream on and keep going.  We need to set goals and work toward better tomorrows.   We need to keep moving, creating, and finding new things to be interested in for ourselves and those around us.   We need to include more people and events into our lives by inviting others to share in our joys and sorrows.   This is not your tomorrow when things are wrong; it is just today. Tomorrow may be the surprising turn around day for you. Every day brings opportunities for turning things around.

So let’s talk about “instant motivation!”  
One of my patients suggested that I discuss the weather and how it affects us.   I thought that was an interesting topic because the traffic into my office depends a lot on the changing seasons and the weather.  People including myself; even the smallest children are effected.   The sun brings out what I refer to as the “Happy Chemicals.”  People get more active and connect more with friends.  Their aches and pain seem to subside or at least appear to be more tolerable.

Actually, I think a domino effect goes into play and it plays out like this:

  •    The sun comes out and brightens our moods.
  •    We raise the shades in our homes, put things away, and begin to declutter.
  •    We call friends, make plans, and go outside.  We breath in the fresh air.
  •    We invite people over and they gladly come out of their routine to visit with us.
  •    We receive more handshakes and hugs.
  •    We commiserate with each others physical pains and recognize our own crosses aren’t as bad as, we may have thought.
  •    We learn ways to compensate and move more.
  •    The more we move and run errands that  we had been putting off, the better our dispositions become.  Why?  Because we have start feeling accomplished and successful.
  •    We dress up more, put on better clothes, and get compliments.  That in turn make us want to be out and about more.
  •    We socialize more in our yards and our patios with music. We might even begin to dance as I saw at a recent church affair where volunteers were being honored.
  •    So now we all begin to move more. For those with arthritis, exercise makes their discomfort more tolerable,  and often gentle stretching may help back pain.  Often exercise can help control asthma and the frequency of attacks.   People with diabetes are able to lower their sugar levels with more walking and eating less of the wrong foods.

But all of these things happen as a result of the sun and the warmth it provides.  When we are feeling better or moods improve, our thinking becomes clearer, and even our pets seem more playful.  We tend to throw the frisbees or balls that otherwise have been sitting dormant in the corner of the yard.   The positive relationships grow among family, friends, and neighbors.  Our memories begin to work more consistently, because our conversations wakeup them up.   And because we are more active and the days are brighter for longer, we sleep better.

Keeping variety in life begins a hardy cycle!   So yes indeed the weather does have a ripple effect on us and how we think and act.   Spring and summer allows us to clean out our garages and attics. Soon we will be seeing the ALL American garage sales pop up in our neighborhoods.

Now briefly onto another topic.   I have been blessed with Mini Miracles Cafe.   It is a group of women who are entrepreneurs in our local communities that are banding together to support and help one another.   It is the first of this year and only one of many groups forming in our office.   If you would like to be part of one of our groups at Delight in Living, please contact me at linda@delightinliving.com  

Also feel free to send me topics you’d like to hear about here on the Podcast.  Until next time, please remember that One step may lead you on to the escalator of success.   Bye for now and have a super week.   Enjoy the sunshine and all that it brings to light up your life.

Is That A Calculated Risk?

Hi Hope your week has gone well.  This is Linda Gullo and I am delighted to be with you.   Welcome to Mini Miracles from Minor Moments where a few tiny changes can escalate in your life and create monumental JOYS.  Our small daily habits can add up to make our vibrant and alive.

Mini Miracles from Minor Moments is designed to help you find an insight about yourself.  My plan is to help you like yourself and love life.   Engaging in life and learning what works for you is the first step.  You don’t have to duplicate anyone else’s life or do things in a way that doesn’t fit.

How are you doing as we wind down the month of April and move into May?  Are you on task with your goals for the year?   Do you have them written down?  If you are like me, they are always changing and taking on a new look.  But that is fine as long as we have a plan in place to get things accomplished.

This is Podcast # 51 on Risk Taking.  On the Web page with this Podcast,  there is a picture of a bridge.   Many people are cautious about walking over a bridge, but if it is built well, it is a safe way to get from on side to another.  Constructions are made to be safe. Well I have a few stories for you to enjoy that bring up the topic of CALCULATED RISKS.  The first one is a rather funny one about teenage boys.  The following are about a Business options.

I recently heard a funny story about a young man soon to be 17 years old.  He was staying with his father and a group of soccer friends for a few days in St. Louis for a tournament.   It was a nice break for this Illinois lad.  This was a special group not affiliated with any school activities.

The fellas decided to meet up in the Lobby during a break one evening.  Meantime the dad took a moment to relax and unwind.  With a few minutes to just breath it would be nice.

Well, you know how it is with some teenage boys, they like to be funny,  and so his friends “dared” him to streak through the lobby in just his undies.  Did he do it?   Was the challenge daring enough?  Why, yes, of course the lad took on the dare and ran across the Lobby in his undies.  We must remember that he is a silly 16 year old.   And yes he got caught.  He was escorted up to the room by a hotel staff member in his undies.   You see, his fellow soccer comrades did the obvious.   They hid his clothes!  Why wouldn’t they?

You can imagine the Dad’s face when he responded to the knock at the door.

We all have taken calculated risks in our lifetime.  Think about the ones you have made and what resulted.

I know  a fellow who in his Mid 20’s was working as a Marketing Representative for a large well known Oil Company.   He learned the in’s and out’s of the Gas Station Business and understood the risks involved.   He also had a steady salary, an allowance for traveling expenses and entertaining clients.  His insurance was covered and many other perks large companies can provide.

In a quest though for bigger and better, he opted out of the position and bought into a Franchise from the company.  It was not one the company really liked to see happen.  Company representatives knew so much and had been trained in a special Master’s program.   They hated to see their time and training go to waste.   You can tell me at the end of the story though if their training was really lost.

After all it was a new station and in a “prime” location.  Did he do it?   What did everyone around him think?  Well his family was supportive enough, they wanted him to do what would make him happy.  And so he opted in to the idea.

He became the owner of a 24-hour Service Station on the North Side of Chicago.   It sounded good and he was young and able bodied.  Savings were poured into the business.   At first, the job gave him an adrenaline high while he tested, interviewed and hired people to pump gas and repair cars.   There was ordering to be done for parts, tools to be bought and inventoried, lockers to be set up, vending machines to rent, bookkeeping protocol, and proper identification that The Company insisted upon for all its franchises.   There was to be a Grand Opening with Promotional items that needed to be moved in and counted.

The lines at the gas pumps were full all the time. And the flow of traffic on a busy corner kept everyone hopping.  That was when gas was put in the tank for you and oil levels were checked.

His wife would come in after a full day of teaching school and help with the books.   The bank was set up to work with an armored company to pick up the cash and checks.   Credit card systems were set in place.   It was all consuming and a great deal of work.   Add in the time to clean the restrooms, the bay areas where the cars were worked on, and the endless deliveries of give away promotional articles kept him pretty busy.   So busy in fact that he began to eat poorly.   Although there was activity is was a lot of standing and working.

Then the miseries and mishaps started.   The station owner was held up by gun point one night.  A gun was put to his head. It was a traumatic and difficult issue.  Thank goodness no one was harmed and knowing a police detective in the area helped relieve some anxiety.  But there were police reports to file and concerns about future endangerment.   Maintenance was ongoing and took time.

Tools began disappearing and monitoring the equipment became a never ending job.   There was mentoring to be done and workers to watch. The 45 minute trip home often didn’t happen.  He’d end up sleeping in the car and not shaving.   Things were very trying, because the station was open on the Holiday’s as well.  One year his mother-in-law brought Easter Dinner so the family could still celebrate together.  It made it very hard to be with the family, yet alone his new bride of less than a year.   Money was coming in, but only after all the expenses were cleared and accounted for regularly.

And then one night when he had just gone home to his apartment to relax and sleep, the phone rang.   Someone had run over a pump.  It was mandatory  for him to return and take care of a potential fuel danger.  He had to report the incident for insurance coverage and cover all the bases.  Being the primary source of expertise made it hard for the business to succeed.

Oddly enough the owner was always running out of gas.  In the buzz of business and constantly running to pick up parts or keep things in place, he’d forget to put fuel in his own car.  It became a joke, as his wife was always meeting him somewhere to help him by bringing a gallon or two of gas.  Youth and being easier going was thankfully on their side.

This was a example of calculated risk of taking on a new business at the expense of relationships.   I have to tell you the relationships won out and the Franchise was not happy when the station closed down.   The officials from the company even said, “you can’t do that!”

What they forgot was that the X-Rep of their’s was trained too well and knew the loopholes.   Furnishings and  equipment was picked up immediately by a large truck and put into a building his family owned.  He dissolved the business and moved out within 24 hours of the decision.   Accounts were cancelled, vending machines with cigarettes, sodas, and snacks were picked up. Unfortunately, part time jobs were lost and the couple exhausted most of their savings.     It was an intentional move that was a good good decision.

Thankfully, another job was waiting.  After a short vacation, the couple returned to start again.   Income was assured as the young man returned to a family business that he had been trained in all his life.  To look back at this now many many years later, it was a risk with options set up along the way.   Thank goodness.

Many adults in business take calculated risks all the time.  They venture out with limited funds and try new things.  They don’t always have backup plans. Others invest in stocks that go bust or they try selling new products that soar with great profit.

Sometimes we learn from the mistakes; these become lessons no one could possibly teach us.   In many cases, life is a risk.   It may be for personal decisions, as well as, business.  

One drops out of school only to realize the mistake and has to begin again.   People return in a better state of mind and begin again not only to advance but to shine on the second or third time around.  It reminds all of us that we need to be encouraging and helpful to one another.

Medically medications and treatments for disease may be a gamble that pays off in many more years of life and the joys of living.  But then how much of what we do has guarantees.

Years ago, I embarked on a series of radio ads that were costly.   They did not pay off.   Although I did make a few good friends at the time and learned about an area of marketing I did not know about, I ended up with a theme song.   The return of the investment did not really pay off.   I guess it has helped me understand recordings that I now apply to Podcasting.

Gambling on the odds of something working out well is necessary or we’d make no advancements.  For even mistakes provide clarity and insight to help us in the future.

One of the shows we tend to watch on Sunday nights is the Funniest Home Videos.  The videos are funny, because things just happen when they aren’t expected.  They are so spontaneous.   Sometimes the pranks look they are set ups and I wonder how many people suffer serious injuries.  People don’t always think about the what if’s and that is the bottom line of thinking things through fully and completely.  Being dared to do something can be in fact foolish and have long lasting results in addition to feeling embarrassed!

Well as this week winds down, I hope it has been a good one for you.   If not, there are new tomorrows and opportunities for growth and advancement.   Take the small steps to put you on the escalator of success.   Peace for the week and I will see you next week!

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Podcast 50-Embracing Change

Happy Friday, I am your host Linda Gullo and this is Podcast #50.   Welcome to Mini Miracles from Minor Moments where just a few tiny changes can make a big difference in your happiness.

This morning I was listening to Satellite radio and the guest was talking about a book he wrote on Ignatian Spirituality.  It encourages a person to reflect on their day and search out things that have happened.  It is used as a means of recognizing how God is present and working in our lives.   It is a means of growing closer to God and seeing all the wonderful things coming our way.   It also reminds us to be receptive of good things and aware of how we might be better to others.

Well this whole week has been a series of small incremental steps in getting projects done.  I decided to share some of them with you as a means of allowing you to think about things happening in your own life.

Please listen and enjoy.

 

Why Be Consistent?

Theme song

Introduction by Jim Haisler.

A short story about a few gardening moments.

Welcome to Mini Miracles from Minor Moments where small achievements may become big accomplishments.  Our small daily habits can add up to make our lives simply wonderful.   Or maybe NOT so fruitful, if they are bad habits.   We make them whatever we want them to be.

Mini Miracles from Minor Moments is designed to help you find an insight about yourself.  My plan is to help you like yourself and love life.   Engaging in life and learning what works for you is the first step.  You don’t have to duplicate anyone else’s life or do things in a way that doesn’t fit.  Perhaps some people learn this early on and others not so well.

Good morning, this is Linda Gullo.  And this is Podcast # 49 on being Consistent.  It’s the wee little issue of being consistent that creates a problem for many of us.  As I say this, I admit to having missed a Podcast last week.  It is the first one I have missed in the last 10 months since I began.   But consistency is a KEY INGREDIENT in everything we do.  When one bakes, it is the process and the timing of putting ingredients into a dinner that makes it taste the same over and over again.   When one works well, it is the system of doing each step well that gives us clarity and uniformity.

What is your incentive in getting things done well this week,  and what actions will you be taking?  When has consistency worked well for you?  Is it when you diet?  Or when you have done something else.

This is Passion Week and along with the usual work we all do, many of us are practicing traditional and cultural expressions for Celebrating Easter.   I can’t imagine how different my life would be if I did not go through the Liturgical changes that fall in line with our yearly Calendar.  As we come off of the Lenten season, it amazes me that it is already Mid-April.   A quarter of our year has been completed.

How are you doing?  Are you on task with your goals for the year?   Do you have them written down?   Are you just starting in?   When does your year begin?

How do you resolve problems? Do you pretend they aren’t there, and totally ignore them.   Taking action helps us take back control.   It allows us to have an impact on situations.

Do you have a team of people around you?   How do they work when you aren’t around?   Is it a staff for your business? or Simply a family that gathers and engages regularly?

A person I knew and respected died this past week after having health issues.   As a matter of fact I have been praying for a whole host of people with major problems that are under treatment.  It has been easier to do this because I have zeroed out time to pray being the Season of Lent.   I really hope to keep some of the practices I used during this last 40 days, as they were good ones and became habitual.

I learned that the people who have done my lawn for many years are moving and stepping out of lawn care.   It is really sad for me, because I learned to depend on them and liked to work with them.   Now it is another concern for me.   So what have I done?   I called my neighbors to get their contacts.  I have asked around for good leads.   I have decided that maybe this is a good thing and I shouldn’t be so disappointed.   I tell others that changes are good and often important.  I will accommodate now that I have internalized the situation.   The grass however, is already high and so time is essential here to remedy this problem.

The other folks were pretty consistent and easy to connect with over the years.   A text or concern was address quickly.   That arrangement was appreciated.   If you own a business, what is it that you offer?

A few years ago I was at a meeting. A Financial Representative approached a member who was talking to me. The representative  seemingly ignored me and began selling the company’s services to this other person.   I felt totally ignored and thought poorly of the approach.   Why did this individual pass me over?  Was it their impression that I had no money to invest?  Were they so desperate for business and the other lady appeared more vocal?

Often we are unaware of our approaches to others and this was one situation that showed that.   I am sure that the company represented would have been horrified to learn of this approach.  It was a good thing that I encountered this as I did,  because I was thinking of talking to them about investment services.   Ironically I had watched them hire a person 6 months earlier where they passed over an older applicant.   It began to make me think that they preferred working with younger people.   Whatever practices you have, be sure that they are consistent with what it is that you want to sell as your brand.   

This experience taught me about myself.   I really want to be included.  I need to have people around me who care like I care for others.   It was an insight and some self awareness I needed to renew.   After all I pay for services like everyone else does.   Don’t we all want to get attention and get the services we deserve?

So this is a year that is yours to design.  Do it well.    Transform your year for yourself and those around you!    A quarter of 2017 is past already.   Pursue your dreams and continually set new goals for yourself.  Talk things through and hear yourself say what you are thinking.   Create a space for self development and take the opportunity to forgive, dance, and live fully.

Have a great weekend and week ahead as you step forward.   Remember that a “single step may put you on the escalator of success!” Have a great weekend and Easter Holiday  and I will see you next week. Thank you for joining me!

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Spring Forward

Intro by Jim Haisler from Heartland Realtor Organization—thank you Jim!

Good morning, this is Linda Gullo.  And this is Podcast # 48 on Cheering on the Springtime!   Yes it has finally arrived!   Although we had a doable winter and we all made it through, there is something so refreshing and exciting about the Springtime.  Today the birds were singing and the ground smelled so earthy.   I even went to buy grass seed to add into the winter loss.  With the Spring rains this week I expect it to take well.

Welcome to Mini Miracles from Minor Moments where small achievements may become big accomplishments.  Our small daily habits add up to make our lives simply wonderful or maybe not so pleasant if they are bad habits.   We make them whatever we want them to be.  It’s the wee little issue of being consistent that creates a problem for many of us.

Mini Miracles from Minor Moments is designed to help you find an insight about yourself.  My plan is to help you like yourself and love life.   Engaging in life and learning what works for you is the first step.  You don’t have to duplicate anyone else’s life or do things in a way that doesn’t fit.  Perhaps some people learn this early on and others not so well.

This past week, I’ve been thinking about how hard is it to get to know ourselves.   It takes so many trials and errors to find out out how to learn something new.

This last week I have been addressing Quickbooks on line.  My CPA encouraged me to do this.  I was reluctant at first.  Yes it is different than I am used to, but I set out to learn  it, as soon as, possible and it is happening.  Feels like a good and doable way to keep up to date with things.
When we have have a plan of attack to accomplish something, it really helps to get things done.

You’d think one would figure out the process for dealing with issues around us, but that is what life is all about.   It is a journey, to be sure.  One thing seems to get resolved and another one pops up.  It presents us with options and choices.   As people get older, it takes more time to learn things and I see so many retired people just give up.   Especially with the technology that is looming all around us.   It takes almost a life of its own.

This week on Public Radio I heard that we waste a lot of time making choices.   Well choices have  to be made, but the clearer our vision about what fits us and the values we hold, make so many decisions easy.      Perhaps that is why having vision and holding to the truths one knows is so relevant.  All these baby boomers who are around hold valuable wisdom for the younger people.   Yet so many younger people want to do it themselves –finding their own way.    They get impatient and annoyed with the older people.   Think about that for a minute.

I must interject a story here about two older couples that were living around me as a child.   One couple lived next door to us.   The man was scared to death after having a heart attack and hardly moved for fear it was his last move.  He’d move from lawn chair to the house and back and let his wife do everything and she did.  He seemed to deteriorate from lack of movement.  But so much has transpired in 50 years when it comes to heart disease.  I bet today he’d have rallied back.

The other couple was always working around their home; they had no children, but seemed to appreciate my brother and me.   Cleaning the yard up was their hobby.   He was a hard working, wrinkled, but such a jovial man; she was a gardener and sweet lady who always found time to talk.  She’d have me pick her flowers to intentionally give them to my mom.   He’d would always appear at my dad’s side to help advise him on how to fix the car or put in the concrete sidewalk.   He was ready to lend him parts.  Odd, how after all these years I have thoughts about them.  And I remember they came here in their youth from Sweden.

Because older people were living around us, I learned to have great respect for them.  The value of life was so preserved and rather sweet.   People helped the elderly and checked on them.  I am not sure that is the case anymore.   And that is very sad to me as I become one of those older people.

We all have to be dealing  with Transitional issues. Who wants to stagnate and do the same thing all the time?   Not I.  Everyone is entitled to have guidance through these times and it can be fun along the way.

Think about the  good friends who help you?  Do they get gas in your car?  Help pay your bills?   Listen to your crabbing?   Tag along at the show when you want to see a new movie?   Do they call you?   Think well about these people and if you are the one always doing for others, what is that telling you?

We all are in different places in life.   Look at the typical 6 year old child.   Developmentally they are in joyful and looking for fun in different places than an 11 year old.  They  have different likes and talents.   Some just tag along with the older siblings, some are busy with creative projects, and others are just playing.

Last week I reminded you that we are all in fact, the first teachers of our children from the time they are born.  We are the ones who need to help them and guide them along.    When they make poor decisions, we may not be able to change the circumstances.

But now look at yourself and think of how you are parenting yourself?  Are you being honest with yourself? 
Take a look at a picture of yourself from this time in a past year. Were you highly motivated to do something different.   Now if you don’t have a physical picture, just think about it.  What is the script you are writing for your life?   What will you be remembered for doing?  What do you really want?

Look at your own potential  and what is the baggage you need to lose?  Is it a bad habit?  Perhaps extra weight?  Sleeping more than you do? How does it affect carrying the same ideas on and on?

Transform your year for yourself and those around you!   It is just the beginning of April.   A quarter of 2017 is past already.   Pursue your dreams and continually set new goals for yourself.  Talk things through and hear yourself say what you are thinking.   Create a space for self development and take the opportunity to forgive, dance, and live fully.

Have a great weekend and week ahead as you step forward.   Remember that a “single step may put you on the escalator of success!” Have a great weekend  and I will see you next week.  Start collecting you mini miracles for ongoing success.

Dwell in the possibility of being better to yourself.  In addition to Counseling, Linda is now offering Online Coaching.  Her specialty of Personal Development for Business Leaders helps all size businesses.   Managers and Entrepreneurs can take themselves to the next level with this opportunity.   In the long run you will be more successful and confident in  your skills and personal development. 

Why STRESS?

Welcome to Mini Miracles from Minor Moments where minor  achievements may become big accomplishments. It is our  small steps and daily habits can transform small issues into wonderfully wholesome and productive lives.   It’s the wee little issue of being consistent that creates a problem for many of us.  We start out with great intentions and fall by the wayside.

Good morning, this is Linda Gullo.  And this is  our 47th Podcast. Today we our topic is dealing with Stress!   And yes, we all have it.   Some refer the feelings associated with it as anxiety.

Mini Miracles from Minor Moments is designed to help you find insights about you!  Our goal is to help you like yourself and love life.   Every person I know is unique and that in itself is so cool.   We are designed to engage differently with one another; to become the best at whatever you want to become.  In our pursuit of independence and happiness though, we make foolish mistakes and can even cause our own stress.   Think about that for a minute.  YOU FIND YOUR SELF RUSHING AND SLIP—ending up with a broken leg.   Or YOU FIND YOURSELF TEXTING AND DRIVING and miss the cutout on the expressway— it takes twice as long to back track.    Or YOU RUSH OUT OF THE HOUSE  — and forget the package you needed to mail.

It seems we create more stress for ourselves.  Our behaviors no matter how small can backfire if we don’t slow down and recognize the value in small repeated and successful habits.

This week, I’ve been thinking a great deal about how we take on the problems of other people.  Speaking for myself,  it is easy to worry about other people when I truly care for them.  With a family that has grown, life just seems to pile on worries.   Many of us, including myself, cannot do anything to help others until they want the help.

The good old serenity prayer has been a help to so many of you.   You know the one:  God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

When have you worried about someone?   Is it your child’s behavior at school and the fear of having the teacher send home another note about their behavior?   Is it about a spouse or loved one who has a bad habit like driving too fast?   Is it about an addiction that someone close to you has; something like drinking alcohol or drugs?

People all around us are worrying and suffering, because of those family members or friends that they love.   For me I have experienced that along the way with numerous issues.  28 years ago, my spouses injuries following an accident were life threatening.  It wasn’t in his control or my own that things happened or escalated like they did, but it was never-the-less, a situation that created stress for both of us and our children.   It was ongoing and seemed at one point to just multiply.   That is when I recognized that taking one thing at a time and one day at a time made so much sense.   Little things began to resolve themselves and bigger things cleared up.

You’d think one would figure out the process for dealing with issues around us, but that is what life is all about.   One gets one thing resolved and another one pops up.

I work with individuals as a Counselor and with people in business to help them deal with Transitional issues when things seem to attack.   Everyone is entitled to have this care, but we need to give themselves the permission to receive it!

Progress comes in increments and it’s something we need to recognize.   I am blessed with several good friends who are in the practice of counseling and coaching.   I am the first to ask for help, because there are so many things to learn and no one is exempt from these transitional issues until we die.

I may not have children of school age like you do or a spouse who is addicted to sex, alcohol, or some other life endangering issues, but lately I have seen myself fall into the trap of being concerned about my grandchildren.  

I do feel it is our responsibility as adults to be there for one another, for aging parents, and the next generations regardless of whether they are related or not.

Some parents tell me they love to have there kids home in the summertime.  They don’t have to worry about the school issues or the teachers they don’t like.  On the other hand they put their children in every camp, day program, or activity to keep them out of the home.   We are all in fact, the first teachers of our children from the time they are born.  We are the ones who need to help them and guide them along.    When they make poor decisions, we may not be able to change the circumstances, but we need to be honest with them and ourselves and guiding them.

Last week I discussed the idea of  a memory stone.  Each stone represents an experience one writes down.  It is to recognize something that changed our path or redirected us into a different  way of thinking.   I challenged my listeners to think about analyzing their own paths.

In a conversation with another therapist and friend, we began to recount our own paths and the people who impressed us.   Or did not help because of their own selfishness.  Relationships are very important, but they are fragile.  We all need to recognize and see that we make a choice to either do nothing about things or fight for the things we believe in.   We can still do that in terms of being kind. but firm.

I was looking at this photo taken by me years ago and thought of all the different people living in a Metropolitan area.   Each has their own set of issues.   Some people are highly motivated, achievers, and fast paced people.

Others stand atop the buildings and take in all there is around them, but don’t engage as being a “worker-bee”.   

Still others are lazy and can’t get themselves into the shower each day, yet alone being productive and insightful for others.   It is what they have learned as acceptable whether they are from a family of achievers or not.   Something or someone has rewritten their biological script.

That is still a very hard premise for me to take in when I see the potential people have and don’t develop.  Eventually they come around to changing, but how will their baggage affect them?   How does it affect you?

So here are a few suggestions for you:

1- Transform your year for yourself and those around you!   It is still only March.   

2- Pursue your dreams and continually set new goals for yourself. Use the serenity prayer as a guide for yourself.  

3- Find a confidante, a coach, or a loyal friend and talk things through. Listen and hear yourself say what you are thinking.   

4- Create a space for self development and take the opportunity to forgive, dance, and live fully.

5- Stay fully alive and engaged in new sports, learn new skills, and do the day-to-day chores that will keep you and your home in tip top shape.

6- Relinquish worry by taking action and being grateful.  We can all do that.

Years ago on a trip to Warsaw, Poland the guide was telling us of the destruction of that city during the WWII.  Following it people literally picked up shovels and began to remove the concrete debris and piles of rubbish.   Small steps to rebuild are often seen after tornados pass or acts of nature create destruction.   It is the will of resilient men and women who rebuild day after day, often doing things they thought they’d never have to do.  Seeing the city completely revamped and vibrant was a tribute to the generations that had  lived before I was there.

Regardless of what your worries are right now, know they will pass and that this doesn’t have to be your tomorrow.  Have a great weekend and week ahead as you step forward.   Remember that a “single step may put you on the escalator of success!” Have a great weekend  and I will see you next week.

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