What is behind door #1? FAKE NEWS
You Never Know What’s Behind Closed Doors. We don’t know the reality of what happens between members of a family or within a business setting. Are the staff members of the restaurant really happy? Are the kids of the house all so well behaved and helpful as they looked in that family photo that comes at Christmas? Is the story in that Family Newsletter the neighbors sent out really true? Or is it all fake news?
What is behind door #2? LIES
Well I was telling someone that often pictures do not tell the truth. We have all had the situation where we gather for a photo and everyone is being crabby, but the smiles make it seem that the family is joy-filled. Or do you go into a Department Store and meet a wonderful clerk only to find out later that the person has a horrible life and they have learned to smile through it all without uttering a complaint?
What is behind door #3? CLARITY
Recently this picture was sent to me from a mom of 7 children. After reminding the children to close the refrigerator door, this is what happened. The mother told me, “Guess I needed to be more specific!” Often pictures don’t communicate what it is we want to really share. Sometimes we need to be alert as to what is really happening. Obviously, Mom was watching her to see if the child was listening and a chuckle ensued.
What is behind door #4? OPPORTUNITY
So this takes me to another point. What doors do you want to open? Are they doors to doing more business? Are they doors to a store that has hours that are inconvenient for your working hours? Is that person you met in person the man or woman who can support your latest invention? Is that older gent the one who can finance your latest educational pursuit?
Take that first step forward and see all the doors that may open on the escalator of success!
We have all had the surprise of reaching into our pockets to find a surprise. What have you found lately? For the young mom emptying pockets before washing kids clothes, they have found worms, rocks, and chewed gum. Or maybe you have emptied the small pocket on jeans and been pleasantly surprised with a $20 bill. If only that happened more often.
Last weekend my daughter was over with her kids and the teenager was asked to start the car to warm it up. He was told “the keys are in my pocket” by his mother. A few minutes later if exclaimed, “I only found cough drops?” Immediately I realized he had reached into my jacket pocket instead of his mom’s coat pocket. And yes, I usually carry cough drops in my left hand pocket. I knew exactly what he found and where they were.
And that takes me to the topic of habits. We all have them. Some people go to the same church service every week, others check into the gym every day at the same time. These people are usually regimented in other areas of their lives too. They tend to be efficient and consistent in how they deal with problems, confront obstacles, and in serving others.
In what areas of life are you consistent? Are you aware of your actions? Do you thrive on connecting with other people? When do you have fun? When have you found something that surprised you?
The best surprises are found when we least expect them. It is like stepping on the scale and finding you have lost another 5 pounds. Or checking out at the local restaurant and finding a coupon has been applied. It is fun then to turn around and give the cash to the wonderful waitress who is always on top of things. That happened today.
Last night I slept soundly and having found a good night’s rest was wonderfully refreshing. So my wish for you is to take the next step forward and find yourself on the escalator of success too. You may find a surprise coming!
Will it may sound rather odd to enjoy visiting a cemetery, there can be great peace there. I guess for me it began as a child. We often would go to visit the graves of family members and place flowers at the sites. I always thought it was neat to see my mom and dad lug the flowers from the car along with their garden tools. We’d walk along and read the inscriptions on the tombs and notice the decorations. There was a sense of pride in taking of the graves and a time for silent prayer. We’d learn funny or kindnesses about the people buried there. I think it gave us an identity of sorts.
When it came to learning to drive, Dad would take us to the Cemetery where my grandparents are buried. We’d practice making turns, backing up between garbage barrels, and driving around. I don’t live in that area anymore, but I still recall the layout of the cemetery in my head.
When we have a physical death in our families, it is a time of loss for sure. The person we are parting from has moved on and we are left alone. There is an emptiness and unrest for those of us who have to carry on all the business and decisions alone. We are often surrounded by our family or friends, but the person who has died can no longer share in decisions, conversations, or memories. That is the hardest part.
The finality and loss of the person influencing our life becomes so real as time goes forward. Knowing we will all die at some point keeps us kind, open, and sympathetic to one another. We offer our respects, we remember those who pass in prayer, and hopefully we reach out to those grieving with invitations and kindness.
As we approach the Holidays, think about those who are alone and how you can reach out to them. How can you be a source of comfort? How can a simple gesture or action bring out the best in you and the joy in another person?
One simple step can put you on the escalator of success in helping others go forward and heal from a loss. Please take that step forward. You will be glad you did and the person who receives the kindness will have a good day.
Books are one of our best friends. They persuade us to think differently. They take us to far away places where we will never go. Books are the friends who don’t judge us, but hang around to amuse us. They come in all shapes and sizes and are easily carried around.
Physically we embrace books, write in the margins, put check marks next to the things we want to hang onto, and refer back to them over and over again. Once we have learned to read and enjoy the written word, we are hooked to pick up anything written.
As a child, my family lived close to the library. Our home was just a 5 minute walk. My mother could watch us walk there and back. We had our own book bag to keep them in and we used it. I loved the free bookmarks that you could take from the counter when you checked out your book. They were always different because groups would donate them, community agencies donated them, and school children created them. Bookmarks are lovely accessories to keep us on task.
Like the bookmarks, books also seem to make us accountable. We are called to challenge ourselves through the biographies we read. Our intellect is challenged by the historical things we read and the mind is constantly called to a place where our imaginations can soar like a birds wings. There are no limits to what the written word can do to engage and confront us intellectually.
Most communities have a library and if they don’t, the schools have collections in more rooms for that level of reading. I wish I had taken even more time reading and comprehending books. I recall a 3 Great Aunts who were all school teachers. None of them married and they all lived in a Chicago home. Whenever I was with them they were encouraging me to read the magazines on the radiator seat at my Uncle Jack’s and Aunt Lu’s house. They had the Look and Life magazines plus lots of National Geographic. Many of the words I did not understand, but I’d read the captions under the wonderful and seemingly life size photos. I was in awe of the world that seemed beyond my scope of understanding.
Today we have everything digitally and so much seems to be lost. It was the flipping of the pages, the beautiful glossy images of movie stars in magazines, or the glacial ridges of the travel articles that intrigued me. I recall searching through stacks of old ones that we cut up for projects and researched. Things were tangible and more real. We were responsible for researching and looking for articles on topics for school. Maybe it is time to bring some of the printed forms of information back into life for this generation. Just a thought to spark you today.
Thanks for reading these blogs. Have a great day and “Delight in Living!”
Being the week before Mother’s Day I began to think of all the things my mother did and gave up for me. Her time to prepare my clothing, to set an example of how to be in relationship, and of course teaching me to learn the rules of how to be safe. She was with me most of the time when I was a toddler and in my formative years, because my dad had a late night shift with the United States Post Office in the City of Chicago. He would sleep mornings, run a few errands for my mom since she did not drive, and he’d be gone for the afternoon and evening. Mother liked being a homemaker and she took her job seriously. She was always cooking, cleaning, sewing, and walking with us.
I was also listening to the radio today and heard that the Bible contains 247 references to the Good Shepherd. That got me thinking about an experience I had in Ireland watching a Shepherd with his sheep. He was quite the caretaker making sure the animals were sheltered, protected in the fields from prey, and rounding them up after eating and exercise. The Good Shepherd is of course Our Lord who is vigilant and present for us at every turn. We go through our day often unaware of His presence just as we are often unaware of the caretakers who have watched over us.
So when did you begin to care for yourself? Were you pretty independent by the age of 21? Are you still in need and appreciative of the shelter from a loved one now? It is often necessary because of finances, health, or circumstances that we are dependent on others at various times in our lives. That isn’t all bad because we are encouraged to rely on one another.
Having fun with one another is essential for good health and to keep a smile on our faces. Welcoming one another back into the fold when circumstances change is also essential. Look around today and reach out to family and friends.
Like the Good Shepherd and our parents, we are called to pass on what we have learned. We are expected to spread joy and love. We need to care for one another and prosper. Be excited for the advancements people make and encourage them. Have a good day! And don’t forget to thank your Mother this weekend. If possible be with her and give back a hug or two. You will be Blessed.
Hang on as we go through this week for more on reaching out to others. “Delight in Living!”
Hi Hope your week has gone well. This is Linda Gullo and I am delighted to be with you. Welcome to Mini Miracles from Minor Moments where a few tiny changes can escalate in your life and create monumental JOYS. Our small daily habits can add up to make our vibrant and alive.
Mini Miracles from Minor Moments is designed to help you find an insight about yourself. My plan is to help you like yourself and love life. Engaging in life and learning what works for you is the first step. You don’t have to duplicate anyone else’s life or do things in a way that doesn’t fit.
How are you doing as we wind down the month of April and move into May? Are you on task with your goals for the year? Do you have them written down? If you are like me, they are always changing and taking on a new look. But that is fine as long as we have a plan in place to get things accomplished.
This is Podcast # 51 on Risk Taking. On the Web page with this Podcast, there is a picture of a bridge. Many people are cautious about walking over a bridge, but if it is built well, it is a safe way to get from on side to another. Constructions are made to be safe. Well I have a few stories for you to enjoy that bring up the topic of CALCULATED RISKS. The first one is a rather funny one about teenage boys. The following are about a Business options.
I recently heard a funny story about a young man soon to be 17 years old. He was staying with his father and a group of soccer friends for a few days in St. Louis for a tournament. It was a nice break for this Illinois lad. This was a special group not affiliated with any school activities.
The fellas decided to meet up in the Lobby during a break one evening. Meantime the dad took a moment to relax and unwind. With a few minutes to just breath it would be nice.
Well, you know how it is with some teenage boys, they like to be funny, and so his friends “dared” him to streak through the lobby in just his undies. Did he do it? Was the challenge daring enough? Why, yes, of course the lad took on the dare and ran across the Lobby in his undies. We must remember that he is a silly 16 year old. And yes he got caught. He was escorted up to the room by a hotel staff member in his undies. You see, his fellow soccer comrades did the obvious. They hid his clothes! Why wouldn’t they?
You can imagine the Dad’s face when he responded to the knock at the door.
We all have taken calculated risks in our lifetime. Think about the ones you have made and what resulted.
I know a fellow who in his Mid 20’s was working as a Marketing Representative for a large well known Oil Company. He learned the in’s and out’s of the Gas Station Business and understood the risks involved. He also had a steady salary, an allowance for traveling expenses and entertaining clients. His insurance was covered and many other perks large companies can provide.
In a quest though for bigger and better, he opted out of the position and bought into a Franchise from the company. It was not one the company really liked to see happen. Company representatives knew so much and had been trained in a special Master’s program. They hated to see their time and training go to waste. You can tell me at the end of the story though if their training was really lost.
After all it was a new station and in a “prime” location. Did he do it? What did everyone around him think? Well his family was supportive enough, they wanted him to do what would make him happy. And so he opted in to the idea.
He became the owner of a 24-hour Service Station on the North Side of Chicago. It sounded good and he was young and able bodied. Savings were poured into the business. At first, the job gave him an adrenaline high while he tested, interviewed and hired people to pump gas and repair cars. There was ordering to be done for parts, tools to be bought and inventoried, lockers to be set up, vending machines to rent, bookkeeping protocol, and proper identification that The Company insisted upon for all its franchises. There was to be a Grand Opening with Promotional items that needed to be moved in and counted.
The lines at the gas pumps were full all the time. And the flow of traffic on a busy corner kept everyone hopping. That was when gas was put in the tank for you and oil levels were checked.
His wife would come in after a full day of teaching school and help with the books. The bank was set up to work with an armored company to pick up the cash and checks. Credit card systems were set in place. It was all consuming and a great deal of work. Add in the time to clean the restrooms, the bay areas where the cars were worked on, and the endless deliveries of give away promotional articles kept him pretty busy. So busy in fact that he began to eat poorly. Although there was activity is was a lot of standing and working.
Then the miseries and mishaps started. The station owner was held up by gun point one night. A gun was put to his head. It was a traumatic and difficult issue. Thank goodness no one was harmed and knowing a police detective in the area helped relieve some anxiety. But there were police reports to file and concerns about future endangerment. Maintenance was ongoing and took time.
Tools began disappearing and monitoring the equipment became a never ending job. There was mentoring to be done and workers to watch. The 45 minute trip home often didn’t happen. He’d end up sleeping in the car and not shaving. Things were very trying, because the station was open on the Holiday’s as well. One year his mother-in-law brought Easter Dinner so the family could still celebrate together. It made it very hard to be with the family, yet alone his new bride of less than a year. Money was coming in, but only after all the expenses were cleared and accounted for regularly.
And then one night when he had just gone home to his apartment to relax and sleep, the phone rang. Someone had run over a pump. It was mandatory for him to return and take care of a potential fuel danger. He had to report the incident for insurance coverage and cover all the bases. Being the primary source of expertise made it hard for the business to succeed.
Oddly enough the owner was always running out of gas. In the buzz of business and constantly running to pick up parts or keep things in place, he’d forget to put fuel in his own car. It became a joke, as his wife was always meeting him somewhere to help him by bringing a gallon or two of gas. Youth and being easier going was thankfully on their side.
This was a example of calculated risk of taking on a new business at the expense of relationships. I have to tell you the relationships won out and the Franchise was not happy when the station closed down. The officials from the company even said, “you can’t do that!”
What they forgot was that the X-Rep of their’s was trained too well and knew the loopholes. Furnishings and equipment was picked up immediately by a large truck and put into a building his family owned. He dissolved the business and moved out within 24 hours of the decision. Accounts were cancelled, vending machines with cigarettes, sodas, and snacks were picked up. Unfortunately, part time jobs were lost and the couple exhausted most of their savings. It was an intentional move that was a good good decision.
Thankfully, another job was waiting. After a short vacation, the couple returned to start again. Income was assured as the young man returned to a family business that he had been trained in all his life. To look back at this now many many years later, it was a risk with options set up along the way. Thank goodness.
Many adults in business take calculated risks all the time. They venture out with limited funds and try new things. They don’t always have backup plans. Others invest in stocks that go bust or they try selling new products that soar with great profit.
One drops out of school only to realize the mistake and has to begin again. People return in a better state of mind and begin again not only to advance but to shine on the second or third time around. It reminds all of us that we need to be encouraging and helpful to one another.
Medically medications and treatments for disease may be a gamble that pays off in many more years of life and the joys of living. But then how much of what we do has guarantees.
Years ago, I embarked on a series of radio ads that were costly. They did not pay off. Although I did make a few good friends at the time and learned about an area of marketing I did not know about, I ended up with a theme song. The return of the investment did not really pay off. I guess it has helped me understand recordings that I now apply to Podcasting.
Gambling on the odds of something working out well is necessary or we’d make no advancements. For even mistakes provide clarity and insight to help us in the future.
One of the shows we tend to watch on Sunday nights is the Funniest Home Videos. The videos are funny, because things just happen when they aren’t expected. They are so spontaneous. Sometimes the pranks look they are set ups and I wonder how many people suffer serious injuries. People don’t always think about the what if’s and that is the bottom line of thinking things through fully and completely. Being dared to do something can be in fact foolish and have long lasting results in addition to feeling embarrassed!
Well as this week winds down, I hope it has been a good one for you. If not, there are new tomorrows and opportunities for growth and advancement. Take the small steps to put you on the escalator of success. Peace for the week and I will see you next week!
What brings life and joy into your life? Is it the fresh air of the morning, the smell of fresh flowers, the sound of a train in the distance, or the laughter of small children? What memories do you want to create or have you created that give you a boost? Who taught them to you? What people do you turn to for advice and comfort? Who impressed upon you favorable habits and a conviction to live a wholesome lifestyle?
I recall a few habits my dad had developed that I have latched onto over my lifetime. One was walking into a church on Sunday morning and stopping to Bless himself. I asked him why he hesitated there? He told me he would stop to thank God for another week. It is important that we all find ways to be reflective and grateful. Gratitude is a formula for growth.
Another thing he’d do is step out onto a small porch landing outside our kitchen door and lean there for fresh air. I think it was to appreciate the apple tree he loved so much and his way of unwinding from stress. We did not have air conditioning and summer days could be tiring after driving home his hour from the City of Chicago. He had Polio as a child and his leg was tired after a day of walking and standing. He’d forge ahead with cutting the grass or working hard and find a shower afterwards as a big reward. Come to the water; drink it and be refreshed by it!
One of my favorite things I have adapted from this is stepping outside with our dog each morning. The sound of the birds tweeting, the garbage trucks coming down our streets, or the kids waiting for the school bus set the stage for the next day. It’s part of my morning ritual. Do you have such a ritual?
Dad loved listening to sports on the radio in the garage. He was always out there messing around with a project fixing something. I have adapted a similar routine in our Laundry room. It is a bright room facing the South and I also have a radio there. It’s fun to iron, sew, and just do small projects in there without any pressure. In lieu of sports, my preference is listening to music that I can sing along with or enjoy, or even audio CD’s of books. That spirit of recreating and renovating things is still stimulating for me. It is nice to take a torn garment and repair it in lieu of buying new. Same with refinishing furniture or reusing an old pot for flowers. It is just fun and so rewarding to repurpose items.
Finally, I recall my dad’s love for reading and learning. It rubbed off well on me. I am a lifelong learner; always seeking out new and different things. He’d clip articles from the newspaper for reference. When he died, I found a book that without a cover; it was worn out from use. It was an old bible with things tucked between the pages. Surprisingly I saw he had often told me things from it, but did not realize it as a child.
He knew well that we weren’t designed to go it alone in this world. We need companions, friends, and family to keep us on task and for safety. He was insightful and empathetic for other people. I’d like to ask him all kinds of things now, but of course that is impossible. It is possible to share and connect with other people though and that is something we are all called to do.
Seeking good role models is key to finding mini miracles and enjoying life fully. My best for a wonderful and productive day.
So with vacation time coming around for school children and adults as well, people are thinking of going to Disney, driving to see family across country, or planning a summer of local activities. Where are you going? What do you plan on doing? Are you going to see your parents? Will you fly or drive? What are your plans? Will you have kids along? Well I have a few thoughts for you to make this summer the best yet!
Maybe you’ll be going to an annual event in your neighborhood or doing local events. Taking a one day trip rather impulsively to Wisconsin, down to Chicago, or to meet a friend for a play may be your mode of enjoying the nice weather. Perhaps entertaining more or with people you haven’t seen in years? All of these ideas are wonderful. Usually they can be economical and scheduled according to the “FREE” days at the local zoo or museum. Take advantage of them and enjoy the sites!
Why do we vacation? Are we trying to get away from the day-to-day pressures that take the toil on our health and thinking? And if this is the case, why is that necessary? I think of past generations who found the weekend picnic or time with family on a Sunday afternoon. That was their pleasure. Simple and easy, not so expensive that they would set back the budget. So let’s take their example and expound on it. Pick a site and go with a bunch of people for safety and a fun time to a picnic site or a big backyard. It is fun. Each person can bring a dish to pass or a fruit to share. It takes down the stress that so many of us suffer from experiencing daily.
Stay connected with friends is so neat. Well staying connected with those we value is neat. We give away what it is we want from others. It may be time, money, energy, wisdom or ? We also seek out the wisdom we need to stay efficient. Find friends and brainstorm. Making time for others is the best gift we can get. Blessings and “Delight in Living” today and everyday.
The Chinese Zodiac has always fascinated me! This year is the Year of the Rooster or referred to as the Cock or Chicken and 2017 is its year. It is the only bird included in the Chinese Zodiac.
How does this apply to you? Well each of us has one of these animals for themselves depending on the year and month of birth. It can be one of 12 animals; each has a fortune with it. These include the year of the Monkey, Rat, Dog, Tiger, Horse, Pig, Snake, Goat, Ox, Rabbit, or Dragon.
Since these animals rotate every 12 years and they hold a fortune for that year. The last time the Rooster showed up, I was in Singapore and it was featured everywhere. I have a liking for Roosters because of our last name which is a derivative of Gallo which translates to Rooster. My father-in-law had a metal one on his mailbox that was very colorful. It is still in our garage. In our kitchen-therapy room here in the office; it is filled with statues and a wall paper trim to match.
So have fun today and check out your animal and your fortune.
Check out the Year of the Rooster 2017: Find your luck, romance, personality or other traits at this site and put in your year for the information.
“Delight in Living”
Well, there is something very unique that goes on in homes where large families reside. Silliness, chaos, and ongoing catastrophes. The neat thing is that most of them become humorous if you let them. Things seem to work out with a touch of humor. So this morning I was privy to a family story that includes a mom, dad, and 7 children ranging from 24 years down to 13 months. I think it is really pretty funny and had to share it!
The wife works nights and had a chance to sleep, since she had the night off. The sweet thought of have a few extra winks was quite the gift. The husband was “walking around like a nut case” (I am quoting the wife here). Apparently Dad couldn’t find his shoes. “Like how do your shoes just disappear? It’s 5:20 am. He’s turning on all the lights throughout the house in a mad search for his shoes.”
In the process, he wakes up the 1 year old baby that mom needs to have asleep! He woke up his wife who was not so happy to be startled awake on her one free evening . She is usually very easy going, but is now annoyed as the search for shoes begins.
So let’s recap here. We have an annoyed daddy in a panic over losing his shoes, a 1 year old baby boy who is unhappy, and a mommy who is trying to sneak in her 5-6 hour sleep time for the day. Not the finest hour of the day. The rest of the family is still asleep including the 16 and 14 year old boys, and the 6 year old little girl.
Now the Dad begins to surmise that the only logical explanation is that 14 year old was too lazy to get his own shoes on and wore them 😑🙄 Of course, how can that be? The kid is still asleep, but mom goes into his room to check out the theory and starts looking like a crazy lady in search of Dad’s shoes. It doesn’t play out. She already knew that was not the case. Now of course, this child is up and asking his mother, “what are you doing!” She tells him she thought she lost something in there and proceeds on her search.
Now the annoyed daddy leaves with different shoes on his feet. Of course, Mom is wide awake and still looking. As she puts it, she was “searching like a lunatic!” Still no shoes.
So now the sweet innocent 6 year old wakes up. Mom figures it’s worth a try to ask her, but probably won’t get far. Hey “honey” (actually was using the child’s name, but we will protect this identity) – have you seen daddy’s shoes?
6 year old responds: “yes!”
Mom then asks, “Um….. you have? Where?”
6 year old responds: “I hid them in the Kohl’s bag that you had in the dining room….. “
6 year old: “I don’t know- just……”
“She said it so calmly!” Mom is now laughing so hard and runs to check out the bag. Yup, there they are as she stated. Along with the original contents of the bag.
They should have checked in with the 6 year old who is always the “family informant!” But, hold on, the scenario has one more punch. Mom is going to get back at Dad for waking her up.
She calls Dad to tell him “yes, it was the 14 year old who had them!” He said “I knew it!” Turns out dad has to eat crow now and fesses up for judging the wrong suspect.
No blog ends without the questions. When have you lost something and found it is an unusual place? (Just found an earring on the shelf of our freezer door, go figure). When have you had a family episode that turned out funny? When have you had to put your shoes under lock and key? (he, he!)