Health and Lifestyle
The Profound Impact of Validation: Understanding Its Forms and Significance Ep 243
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Validation holds immense power in our lives, emanating from various sources—be it a spouse’s affirmation, a friend’s support, or recognition from a figure of authority. In Episode 243, we embark on a deep dive into the multifaceted nature of validation and its far-reaching effects.
Here’s a glimpse into the insightful discussion:
- Unpacking the diverse forms of validation: from verbal acknowledgment by a superior to the heartfelt words in a note that affirm one’s purpose.
- The pivotal role of validation in nurturing motivation and driving us toward greater achievements and excellence.
- Exploring the emotional dimension of validation: how it cultivates honesty, fosters trust, and creates a sense of security and accountability in our relationships.
- Understanding the transformative potential of validation during challenging phases, including health struggles and moments of stress.
Validation isn’t just about feeling good—it’s about receiving approval, experiencing pride, and finding reassurance in external acknowledgment.
“Validation may come in the form of a trophy or in many other ways!”
The Value of Repetition & Falling in the Pits MMEpisode 241
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From Grief to Growth: Navigating the Stages and Paving the Path to a Longer, Healthier Life EP 240
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Do you ever find solutions to major problems? We may not know where to start of how to proceed. Who do we talk to and get information? Today’s podcast centers on Living a longer and Healthier Life. It begins with a few more comments on death as talked about a few sessions back and the Stages of grief we go through when we have lost a person close to us. Often we revert to one of these. It may take weeks, months, or even years to resolve the loss of a loved one.
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- Denial:
- Description: In the initial stage, individuals may have difficulty accepting the reality of the loss. There is a sense of shock and disbelief.
- Behavioral Signs: Denial may manifest as avoiding discussions about the loss, pretending the person is still alive, or engaging in activities as if nothing has changed.
- Anger:
- Description: As the reality of the loss sets in, individuals may experience intense emotions of anger and frustration. This anger can be directed at themselves, others, or even the person who has passed away.
- Behavioral Signs: Outbursts of anger, resentment, irritability, or feelings of injustice are common during this stage.
- Bargaining:
- Description: In this stage, individuals may try to negotiate or make deals in an attempt to reverse or alleviate the pain of the loss. This often involves seeking a higher power or making promises in exchange for a different outcome.
- Behavioral Signs: Praying for the return of the loved one, making promises to change certain behaviors, or attempting to find meaning in the loss through negotiation.
- Depression:
- Description: As the impact of the loss becomes more apparent, individuals may experience profound sadness and a sense of hopelessness. This stage involves coming to terms with the reality of the situation and the depth of the loss.
- Behavioral Signs: Withdrawal from social activities, changes in sleep and eating patterns, overwhelming feelings of sadness and despair.
- Acceptance:
- Description: In the final stage, individuals begin to come to terms with the reality of the loss. Acceptance does not mean forgetting or being completely “over” the loss, but rather finding a way to live with it and move forward.
- Behavioral Signs: Re-engaging with daily activities, developing a new routine, and finding a sense of peace with the memories of the loved one.
It’s important to recognize that these stages are not a one-size-fits-all model, and individuals may move through them at their own pace. Grieving is a highly personal and individual process, and people may revisit certain stages multiple times as they navigate their emotions and come to terms with the loss. Seeking support from friends, family, or a mental health professional can be beneficial during this challenging time.
- Denial:
Some may also suffer from guilt. Linda shares some personal reflections on these topics.
Linda talks about recognizing others when they have had a loss. We can’t compare, but we can adapt some the skills they used to get through difficult situations.
The second half of the podcast is on “Living a Long Life”. Some of these ideas may help you hit 100 and still be well.
1. **Develop new friends and keep the old:**
– Join social clubs or organizations related to your interests.
– Attend local community events or gatherings.
– Utilize social media platforms to reconnect with old friends and stay in touch.
2. **Enjoy your pets and let them help you stay active:**
– Take your dog for regular walks or hikes.
– Engage in interactive play with your pets, such as playing fetch or running around in the backyard.
– Attend pet-friendly events or join pet owner meet-up groups.
3. **Other groups remind us to get up and down off the floor daily:**
– Join a yoga or Pilates class, which often involves getting up and down from the floor.
– Practice simple body weight exercises at home, incorporating movements like squats and lunges.
– Engage in activities that naturally involve sitting on the floor, such as playing board games or doing puzzles.
4. **Interact with friends the same age. Stay connected. Don’t lose 15 years by staying alone:**
– Attend senior community centers or events to meet people of similar age groups.
– Use technology for virtual meet-ups, video calls, or online gaming with friends.
– Organize regular social gatherings or outings with friends to maintain strong connections.
5. **Volunteer and connect:**
– Explore local volunteer opportunities in your community.
– Join volunteer groups or organizations aligned with causes you are passionate about.
– Attend volunteer events to meet like-minded individuals and build connections.
6. **Eat well:**
– Plan and prepare balanced meals with a variety of fruits, vegetables, lean proteins, and whole grains.
– Stay hydrated by drinking an adequate amount of water throughout the day.
– Limit processed foods and focus on a colorful, nutrient-rich diet.
7. **Stay purposeful:**
– Set personal goals and work towards achieving them.
– Engage in activities that bring a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction.
– Explore new interests or hobbies to keep life meaningful and purpose-driven.
8. **Enjoy hobbies:**
– Dedicate time regularly to pursue hobbies you are passionate about.
– Join clubs or groups centered around your hobbies to meet like-minded individuals.
– Attend workshops or classes to enhance your skills and share your interests with others.
Coaching is for everyone and can help you get ahead. Feel free to connect with Linda at 815-459-5161 or email her at Linda@delightinliving.com
Unlocking the Power of Abundance: Inspiring Friendships and Two Book Review’s (Episode 239)
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Happy Fall!
We all live in a world with lots of materialism. Advertisements are all around us to purchase something on the internet. Fads keep us buying new stuff until we are overwhelmed with possessions and wonder how in the world did I get so much! In the meantime, we are losing relationships and being fully connected to one another.
Below are five ways to improve and maintain strong connections in your relationships:
1. **Active Listening:**
– Set aside distractions.
– Listen with genuine interest.
– Reflect on what the other person says before responding.
2. **Quality Time:**
– Schedule regular one-on-one time.
– Engage in activities you both enjoy.
– Create technology-free zones for deeper interaction.
3. **Respect and Boundaries:**
– Communicate and respect each other’s boundaries.
– Discuss and agree on important boundaries.
– Be mindful of personal space and privacy.
4. **Effective Conflict Resolution:**
– Address conflicts calmly and constructively.
– Focus on the issue, not on attacking each other.
– Find mutually satisfying solutions.
5. **Acts of Kindness:**
– Show appreciation with small gestures.
– Celebrate achievements and milestones together.
– Provide support during challenging times.
By implementing these action items, you can actively work on improving your relationships and fostering a deeper sense of connection with the people who matter to you.
In today’s podcast, two Fictional books are suggested. They are Unbroken by Laura Hillenbrand and Keeping Faith by Jodi Picoult as suggestions for your winter evenings. Hope you enjoy them.
Take the first step, it may put you on the Escalator of Success!
Overcoming Self-Doubt and Making Life-Changing Decisions
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When we are challenged by a problem, we may ignore the reality of taking action. The things we end up facing things makes changes easier than we thought. Our minds often create unnecessary visions and problems that do not exist.
Linda talks about the reality of facing hip surgery and the prospect of getting a 4 month old puppy. Now that she did that she sees the blessings. Decisions can be minor or major and we need to face them.
Self-doubting ourselves is something that comes across all the time. Getting insights from someone else may be the best way to find help. We often need to pray and think things through. What is it that you want? Why am I doubting myself? Have I seen someone near me fail?
The quote Linda shared is “Don’t downgrade your dream just to fit your reality. Upgrade your conviction to match your destiny!”
Distractions 101 – Trying to Avoid Them!
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Are you easily distracted?
What gets in your way of accomplishing work?
How might being aware of distractions help you?
At this time of the year, there are surprise parties, work issues, phone calls, pets, road construction, and other deterrents. Hope you recognize and can avoid some of the pitfalls!
“Take the first step, it may put you on the escalator of success.”
Acceptance: Self Confidence in the Making
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Acceptance: Self Confidence in the Making
On today’s podcast Linda talks about the definition of Acceptance. In our lives we have to learn to accept a variety of things. Unfortunately not everything is what we would like, but we learn to distinguish the reality of circumstances and how we might be able to change things along the way. Using a series of personal experiences you’ll hear a few things that hopefully will guide you ahead. Sometimes we need to look outside of ourselves and see what is really going on.
Linda shares about a story about how a friend’s visit with her to learn about a program some 30 years ago gave her insights. Her friend Sue accompanied her to an information center and afterward helped her accept going forward.
She also talks about accepting or rejecting medical advice. How do you do what is correct? What concerns do you have?
As always Linda invites you to give her ideas and topics. Feel free to call 815-459-5161! Asking for help is wisdom!!!
Take the first step, it may put you on the escalator of success.
Temporary Moments, Multitasking, and Timeliness
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Temporary Times
Many times when people are going through difficult times I like to remind them that these times will pass. It is good to discuss the options and sorrows with others. It helps to dissolve and resolve issues. Temporary moments can also be moments of joy and then we need to share and multiply the happy moments because joy needs to be shared so we can engage in laughter and smile. If something difficult is happening to you, then it is good to share them with someone who can help. They often help to carry the pain and lessen the times of struggle.
I also share thoughts about two visits I am anticipating when connecting with friends this coming week. Of course, there are a few challenges and concerns coming up as well. When things are going well it is actually good to write those down in a journal It helps keep our minds clear and joy-filled.
Multitasking
Multitasking used to be something I did all the time. Nowadays I try to focus on one thing at a time. I find I do better when I concern myself with one thing at a time. Studies have shown us that heavy multitaskers were less effective. I just read on the internet that only 2% of the population can multitask and the other 98 % were unable to do so. That tells us that most of our efforts are not really helping us. Neurosciences tell us why multitasking does more harm than good. Look around you and see how multitasking works for or against you.
Timeliness
What is the most stressful time of the year? Does a specific season affect you more than other times? Has someone in your family died and that date shacks you up yearly, or inspires you to respect a specific need?
Is there a season that brightens you up like a month of birthdays in your family? Or a season of traveling? When are things particularly good for you?
What skills did you use? Did you have a time when your memory was top-notch? Linda shares how different opportunities allow us to accomplish things well. What changes are you recognizing?
Timeliness gives us opportunities to grow. We may be able to connect with people more or travel as we become empty nesters. Perhaps car trips are now wonderful for your young children. Look for what you are able to do now and absorb these moments. Enjoy time with other people and develop new relationships as well. Make memories that will keep you upbeat!
Thanks for listening today on these three different issues. Please submit topics and ideas for the podcast. Many of these ideas come to me through clients, community suggestions, and reading.
Take the next step forward, it may put you on the escalator of success.
Being Genuine and Liking Yourself
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Being Genuine and Liking Yourself means gathering from your past the good things and building upon them every day of your life. Welcome to Podcast 224 on being genuine and liking yourself. Being aware of what you are doing and how you are moving ahead comes from your past and present.
Who taught you to live well? Where did you grow up and who set the limits for you? Who kept you accountable? Who watched out for your welfare? Do you have a good conscience as a result of having good boundaries and wholesome values?
Changes in our times have happened because of a number of things. Standards have changed. People no longer work for one company for a long period of time. We pay for things differently. We don’t all know our neighbors like we once had done. Fewer people are attending a specific denomination church. So much has changed. What are you accepting and what is causing you to question your environment or make changes intentionally in the way you live? Now is a good time to reflect.
Do you connect with a specific type of music? What does that music do for you? Does it connect you with joyful or sad moments? Linda talks about earworms that keep buzzing in your head or mental landmines that wake you in the middle of the night. How do you clarify things that need your attention? Are you looking for answers?
Phases of life help us advance. We are all continually going through developmental changes. We are lucky to have businesses and people in our community to help us and support the local schools and events. Linda talks about a man who set an example of this nature in his community. His generosity and the community he lived in benefitted everyone greatly and he will continue to be remembered for a few generations.