Health and Lifestyle
It’s Time to Be A Chameleon
Well, we know that many species of Chameleon Lizards change color. They do it naturally. Many chameleon lizards are really pretty too. They also sleep about 12 hours a day. On the weekly show of Death in Paradise, there is a green lizard named Harry. I actually read that Harry isn’t real. He is a computer-animated character, but he adds a wonderful aspect to the stories and I never realized how he was created. My reason for mentioning Harry is that he tries to help the Detectives adapt to the atmosphere and temperatures in their cabin. Animals of all sorts do that for us. In recent weeks, I have heard on the news that the dog shelters were emptying. Many of us love dogs and find them incredibly comforting. We all need to take some lessons from these creatures.
In today’s podcast, I am addressing how difficult it is to adjust to changes. It dawned on me one night as I laid in bed, that sleep and the ability to ease into different situations takes practice. It was 3 in the morning. I was an achy mess and my mind was very busy going over many of the situations in the current scene.
I decided to share some of these on the podcast because so many families are going through a crisis that can’t be resolved with the delete button like on a computer. Which would be nice! Problems are often resolved with solutions that require action and time. Some actions are out of our control or require others to help us. We often do not know who to ask.
During this time of the pandemic, many families have lost their source of income and also their source of insurance coverage. Some people—and we do not really know all the numbers, have had this coronavirus in various degrees. Look ahead to our FREE Workshop on Changes.
Natural Changes for Everyone
The interesting aspect of this is that life is continually changing. From the moment we are born we go through changes in our size, in the way we comprehend information, and also in how we move. We start over and over again in different ways. Our health care changes. We are given different shots to help us gain a strong resistance to diseases, we are exercising to keep us functional, and we are developing personalities.
We develop in the context of a family unit. We start having relationships with our parents, guardians, teachers, church members, and community influencers. We are meant to be with other people. So in these times with this pandemic, many of the comforts we have learned as natural and comforting are not that way.
People are not able to maintain the same levels of comfort. No longer are we going to the local gyms, calling friends to meet over coffee, or waiting for Friday’s to roll around. Our days are confused. Many in recent weeks have told me they don’t know what day it is. They don’t know where to get food. Parents with no experience are suddenly homeschooling and the kids are bored and filled with energy to move.
Changes going on this week in our family…
In addition to these changes that we can’t control now, we are also seeing other issues. I am going to share a few things going on in our extended family.
One involves one of my grandchildren. She is a young lady with three babies. Ages 2, 1, and newborn. She lives in a small basement apartment that has flooded this week.
The landlord was the only one who was able to navigate getting to them. He moved the family to a different location in another suburb. Of course, they lost everything and had no renter’s insurance. Their cars decided not to work with the flooded streets. These are not pleasant changes, but I hope they will be moments of seeing how nice others can be to them. Members of her mother’s church are helping them survive.
Talk about changes. I have a daughter who was tested for the coronavirus just like so many of you may have been. The tests were positive for her and one of the children showing symptoms. Now that whole family is under quarantine and accommodating to it all. They had been disinfecting everything, washing their hands a lot, and still contacted it.
Certainly, they have changes in their environment.
In our front yard, we are dealing with a wild animal of sorts. Originally we thought it was a skunk but there was no smell. Probably a groundhog that decided to dig out a portion under our front sidewalk and have a family down there. It has been weeks of dealing with various means to say goodbye to them. The sidewalk is at risk of caving in if we don’t try to resolve things.
Changes that surprise us…
Now there are pleasant changes all around. These are the Mini Miracles I love that help to sustain us. The first happened when a speaker I met in Franklin, Tennessee last year came up to me during a break. We engaged in a conversation about what each of us did and the things we wanted to grow in business-wise. I participated in his Mastermind for a few months and he graciously mentioned me in his Podcast. I will put in the link for these notes. His name is Scott Harvey and you may really enjoy listening to him. But for me, it was a delightful surprise and I thank him.
Changes call us to break habits and reprioritize. Note what is important to you. Then think about what habits stop you from excelling. For me, I try not to eat after dinner. It meant that snacks had to be out of my vision. The power of suggestion to eat comes from me seeing things. It also means that I just can’t have things around that non verbally invite me to eat them.
I also have a double-doored pantry that when I opened it would let me see all the snack items. I moved those items to a different cabinet and taught myself to grab the broom on the sidewall when I was being called to snack. I then go to the front step and sweep it. I literally say that I am sweeping away the problems and things that call my name.
I started that habit 15 years ago when my kids were teenagers. When I would worry about them or get upset about something, that was my go-to plan of action. In recent months with the pandemic and with my strange country animal visitors, I began again.
Let’s look at some of the benefits of change…
1-In the case of this virus, our cars are getting a rest.
2-We are able to walk or be resourceful of ways to exercise.
3-Our projects at home are being done. For me, I actually put in annual plantings that were a gift to me. The frequent rains have taken care of them. this morning I spray painted our mailbox and newspaper sleeve.
4-There is time to be with our children who are not in school. If you have no children or are away from family, it may be time for Skype, zoom, or Face time.
5-We have time to read, sleep, and think deeply or take a walk.
6-There is time to send out a card to someone you think about. Everyone likes mail and hopefully, it will be a treat for them.
Have a lovely week everyone! As a result of all the changes going on in our communities, I am starting a workshop on June 4th at 1 pm. That is an early Thursday afternoon. It is necessary to register for it, but it is starting out FREE and will hopefully offer ideas and positive techniques for these challenging times.
Check this out and join us!
As a result of all the changes going on in our communities, I am starting a workshop on June 4th at 1 pm. That is an early Thursday afternoon. It is necessary to register for it, but it is starting out FREE and will hopefully offer ideas and positive techniques for these challenging times.
Who Do You Believe?
In the recent 6 weeks, we have been getting news from around the world. Many people are chiming in as to who, what, and where things are occurring. I am of course talking about information on the Pandemic. We get information from our governors, from our president, from our news stations. Our local mayors are telling us their statistics and viewpoints. Our businesses are suffering. Our faith communities are trying to keep us up-to-date.
This past weekend, we celebrated Mother’s Day in a new way. This is a photo of my mom. It is actually an oil painting that was reinvented for this fun page. My mother died many years ago and I still miss her daily. My own children remembered me beautifully. However, it was different from in the past when they would bring their families. Together we would spend time in the yard, eat hardily, and joke. Sometimes we’d work on puzzles or other family projects. Sports might be on the television and a group watching the latest games.
So much of how we are interacting is different. We are embracing the internet, talking on the phone, and doing things alone. This is not how we were designed. We were created to interact in person, to touch one another, to laugh, and have emotional experiences together. Now tears are flowing as people go into situations alone that really didn’t need to be!
I have two friends who had family members in a hospital. One of them then had a family member in a nursing center for several weeks. In these cases, there loved ones were alone without anyone to advocate or share their problems and pains. Our mental health is greatly improved when we can talk, laugh, cry, and share. We hear ourselves expressing ourselves and refine our thinking during conversations. We double-check our thinking and our behaviors accordingly.
In the course of conversations, we are able to figure out who to trust and how to sort out our thinking. As adults, we have come to cleanse our opinions. We are able to sort out facts. We are able to read and learn by living in different situations. What is bothersome to me is that young children are not able to be with their grandparents during this time, because it is said that children can become carriers of this virus. And yet it is the older population that may be able to lend some wisdom on how to deal with this pandemic.
I don’t know where you are in this. Are you an adult who has the responsibility to provide the money for the family? Are you a spouse who is not able to be with your mate due to this? Are you in a position to be in the workplace in a job that is at risk? Are you part of a medical team like a nurse or hospital or nursing home person? Are you concerned about getting the needs you have? Are you doing without food or looking for shelter? So many people are putting themselves at risk because of the basics. Many are looking for some income during this time.
I know as a counselor and coach, I have been able to do some of my work online, and I am very grateful for that. I also have an office that encourages people and holds comfort for them. To be honest with you I can’t wait to get back in here full time to see and to engage with people. To see their expressions and feel where they are at.
Back to the trusting component of this!
So who do you trust? Is it a friend who always comes through for you? That person who goes out of their way or offers to do favors for you even if it is inconvenient? Is it a family member who shows unconditional love without knowing all the details?
For me, it is a combination of things. Yes, I have a few friends that are available to me whenever I need them. One lives far away, but can be reached in the middle of the night or whenever I would call. Another is a friend who is older and wiser than I am who traveled with me to many places in the world. We used to share money when traveling and a room with one another. She was a safety factor for me and I was the same for here. To this day, we share the most trivial or most significant issues.
Then I had a cousin who died of pancreatic cancer years ago that I was tied into. We would share profound happenings and just be there for one another. We had shared as children many of the same holidays and family changes. She was only 4 years older than I am, but I learned from her, yet we were so different.
On a broader skim of things, I look to people who are genuine and honest. People who would not in any way intentionally hurt me. People who would listen and even though they wouldn’t agree with me would be kind, respectful, and honest.
Now in the past few years, I have become skeptical of outside information. With the news media and social avenues we have available, we are definitely kept up to the minute on things happening all around us. The problem I see is that we don’t always see things in context. As a matter of fact, we don’t know if what we are being told is an opinion or a fact. That makes one weary to believe. On another level, I question if I am being primed to buy something. Yesterday I was listening to a program on leadership and helping others, but in the end, there was a program that I would have to buy into. I was totally annoyed and don’t think I will follow this business again. It has happened several times so I guess I am a slow learner and now I don’t think I am trustworthy of this business. I see them marketing all the time.
The news bothers me lately because everything seems tied to politics. I am not sure I am getting the totally correct facts. The intonation of the voices often conveys a message too. My trust level has been diminished. So where does one go for information? It appears that we have to be discerning frequently and tied into many avenues. I think it means we have to use common sense and see how it affects that way we react. We need to see things in the light.
From a Counseling Perspective
- Individually, we need to recognize our emotions. Our emotions are the basis for our behavior.
- One needs to stay connected to a variety of groups of people and not be isolated from family, friends, and local businesses.
- We need to see what we can contribute to help one another.
- It is a good time to connect across the generations. Talk with the younger and older people around you whether it is in a store or on the phone.
- Be intentional about sharing whatever skills you have without a hidden agenda.
- Listen and try to get the fuller picture.
Trust yourself, especially if you have lived through and survived with positive outcomes. Your gut feelings are often accurate. I hope some of these thoughts move you ahead this week. Don’t forget to take the first step forward on something you want to learn or do, it may put you on the escalator of success.
Today’s Small Insights
Know that we are here to help you through the changes.
Stay close in spirit! We support you and wish you well today!
Take the first step forward it may put you on the escalator of success.
Today that first step helped me get started with spring cleaning. LOL
Finding perspective in trying times is a challenge. How has your life been disrupted during this outbreak of the Coronavirus (COVID-19)? Can we help you process things? Here at the Delight in Living office, we are doing a lot of our contacts on the phone and thru zoom. No way do we want to leave you in a lurch. If you are feeling the loss of control, or in a place of how to be more resourceful, chances are that you are not alone. All of us are in a new environment. It is good for us to think about how we will accommodate. Self-care and taking care of our families is important. Also teaching one another not to be selfish is the greatest lesson.
“Perspective is the only thing consistently more valuable than the answer itself.” Andy Andrew
Steve Dotto teaches us online techniques. This is a time to teach one another. How to reframe thoughts. We are resourceful people. I am here for you to help you process things. A program on pain is coming up—how to deal with pain and things you are going to deal with. A program on “systems” is also coming up.
We all tried as children to take shortcuts. Here Linda discusses how we can’t always do that. Shortcuts don’t always work. That is when we are called to be responsible and look at the larger picture. How do you take shortcuts? What is the destination you are trying to reach? Do you find things fall into place naturally?
Dreams and Visions
We all need to have a purpose. This is a time to look at them. Set a new series of goals. The question becomes, how can I help to be responsible. This is a time to teach one another balance. Variety in life reflects every area of our life. Eating is only one area in which we can do this. We need to learn boundaries; how to conduct business. How to care for our bodies and the expectations we set for ourselves.
Mini Miracles is designed to help you to stay in the moment. Keep balanced and feeling well is now a new focus for everyone.
Take the first step, it may put yourself on the escalator of success.
Labels, Tags, & Stigmas
Thanks to Jim Haisler who opens and closes our show each week. He continues to serve us and our community well at Heartland Realtor Organization.
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Beware of how you interpret Labels and Tags!
Labels, tags, and stigmas can be temporary. These involve all of us. We have been labeled by our parents, teachers, and others along the way. Linda shares a comment she overheard when she was about 6 years old. As a small child in school, one may misinterpret or be confused by things being said. The comments may or may not be true. We also need to be careful not to label others either. Let this story speak to you and how it may help you jump-start success.
We must take into consideration that many tags are not correct. Some tags and labels are holding us back from striving and moving forward! I want to free you from the things that hold you back. As a counselor, I was made aware that the labels and tags used are very dangerous and hold people from enjoying life. Try new things. Throw away the stigmas that may be haunting you.
Invite people onto your team to move forward. Feel free to call our office to talk about things that haunt you or things you need to get past. We can be part of the solution.
Remember to take the first step, it may put you on the escalator of success.
Mini Miracles from Minor Moments this week is about clarity and focus. Trying to find clarity? Are you full of questions? Part of the solution lies in the preparation. We develop a process that becomes a never fail step-by-step list of things to do. Soon they become so habitual that you do not realize you’re carrying them through. Either create your own processes or ask for help. It will make your life easier and help you focus.
Compounding interest is earning money not only on the principal amount but also on the interest you have accumulated. Let’s take that principle and apply it to your life. When you have experienced a defeat or success you have the opportunity to grow. This is true when you are doing business. You may be blessed with a really good opportunity to serve someone or provide for a need they have. You may be able to have a favor done for you and it totally changes how you think or act.
The same is true with any relationship. One good friend introduces you to the people or hobbies they enjoy and now your own life is making ripples. People who value communicating help us communicate better. They help us live a fuller life. Although moments of joy and growth may appear far and few, but they do exist. Some come and go with time. That is true with our spouses, cousins, or colleagues. Learn from them. Collect the minor moments and times of interchange you had with them. That is part of the legacy they leave you. These relationships allow you to like yourself, to find clarity, and to focus on what is important to you.
When it comes to a decision you have made, it can be a blessing or a curse. Learning from it and gaining insight is a valuable piece of living a healthy and happy life. I made the decision to move into my own suite 15 years ago and it was a blessing. It took planning, as well as, asking lots of questions to bankers, business people, and even to myself. Why will this work? Why the move? What will it serve my clients better? How will I promote it and on and on?
In Erasing Adversity, (available at Amazon) I write that you don’t want to erase the difficult times in your life. You want to learn from the things you experienced. Valuable insights are the interest on having learned something. Keep adding those “nuggets of gold” and you become wiser and stronger. You can help yourself and other people who connect with you.
Build confidence, communicate more effectively, handle difficult situations and clarity becomes your gift. That is what I call compounding. It is taking those small moments and finding the mini-miracles that bring you satisfaction and joy. You grow in clarity.
As I end this week’s podcast, a shout out to everyone trying to get their life together. Working on yourself is hard, especially when you are reaching out to others along the way, but keep going. No matter where you are. Taking the first step may put you on the escalator of success.
Let the Race Begin
Let the race begin is kind of ironic for me. I have assigned two words for myself as the year begins. More words will evolve each month as the year moves ahead. These are well thought out! I have chosen a few special words to use as a bridge into 2020. Here is a list from another site I discovered.
One of the words is “slowly.” I am very guilty of rushing. Rushing to get things done. Rushing to make up for my husband who is slow due to his ailments. Rushing as if time is not my friend. What started this consciousness was a fall I took going into Midnight Mass on Christmas Eve. I skinned my face, hurt my right hand and arm, injured both knees and a hip. I never got into the service. The worst part is getting into a car now, I still hurt. Are you also rushed? Time is our friend. Doing things slowly has the benefits of doing it correctly the first time and being safer!
The upside is that I didn’t break anything except my pride. I recognize this is all temporary. I am already mending although it will take a while to fully mend. It makes me more empathetic to those who have permanent injuries and reminds me to slow down. Again slowly is fine, it will ease me into the next month with care.
The second word for the month is “sharing.” I need to share my experiences in writing, coaching, counseling, podcasting and speaking. I have been blessed with many stories and I can help you! Now is the time to do this. Expressing with other people need to have affirmed and acknowledged is my way of developing a legacy for future generations.
Now to share a photo of a gift given to me at Christmas from a cousin who had it made especially for us. As many of you know, we build an outside garden house in our yard a few years back that I have come to enjoy around the year. After many names, we came up with The Delightful Den. She had this sign made for it. Isn’t it perfect! The Delightful Den is an extension of my philosophy to Delight in Living!
During the Fall season, I began cartooning. I am sketching ideas to help me see exactly what needs to take shape. You will be seeing some of these as the year goes forward. Simple to say the least.
As with all the topics we share here, self-development is essential. We need to know our values, our concerns, and the direction we will pursue for self growth. We need to develop great relationships and enjoy what we have. Let the race begin for you. Decide you key words for the month. Launch yourself forward by connecting with people you appreciate. Enjoy!
So welcome to 2020.
Feel free to send me topics, and ideas to share. Most of all remember to take the first step, it may put you on the escalator of success!
A Mental Makeover?
“I am sorry for the things I have done and the things I have failed to do.” This is a line from a prayer that made me think about the mistake I made this morning coming here. I failed to put on my indicator early enough. It could have helped a lady nearby. I didn’t intentionally do that, but something I was aware of not doing!
Prioritizing Our Mental Health is Essential
We need to put our Mental Health on a level higher than we do. Mental health has to be equal to our Physical Health in terms of importance. Both are very important. Our mental health is valuable. Are you ready for a mental health makeover? As a Psychologist, it bothers me that people pay for everything, but the one thing that drives their whole life and is most valuable they fail to invest in is their thinking. Yes, invest in your mental health. Do it now. Take time for your mental health – get good coaching. Also if you are a business person or entrepreneur think about registering for our Mastermind that meets online Thursdays at 10:30 CST
Stimulate your Mind with a New Word
On Sirius Satellite, Channel 129, I listen to a Lady by the name of Jen Fulwiler. She is a stand-up comedian, a mom of 6 kids, and a radio host. Her background is programming and has a few different sites. One of these is a site that generates a word of the year. It is a site that provides a word you can use to stimulate your mind to try new things or reprogram your thinking. I love the idea of setting a word to stimulate us to be better. Although if you follow me I believe we need to rest our goals on a quarterly basis and not for a whole year at a time. Maybe this will make you ready for a mental health makeover to feel better. A change of habits that can shine joy and a new direction.
Blessings to everyone as we head into the Holidays. Have a Merry Christmas and enjoy your family and friends. As always take the first step forward, it may put you on the Escalator of Success.
Yes, ultimately I believe that Blessings in our life flow from God. Throughout each day there are many opportunities offered to us that keep them coming. Our brains allow us to think thoughts that in turn give rise to emotions and then behaviors. A simple example is: If you believe someone is unkind to you, it may make you angry. In turn, you may react in a poor way by being nasty to everyone around you or even physically lashing out. Rather than see the negative things, be kind and gentle to yourself and clarify your thoughts. Then your behaviors will be gentler and more amicable.
Dolly Pardon encourages us to affirm ourselves. “You are good enough!” Yes, you are great! We need to stop criticizing and encourage ourselves and one another. Provide affirmations for yourself. Note the things you are good at doing or enjoy and engage in those activities. Remind yourself or your own gifts. Walking hand-in-hand with others makes everyone’s life easier.
Today’s podcast is about helping yourself and giving yourself good vibrations! Having good thoughts repeated over and over again are affirmations that we can feed to ourselves. Therefore, do it regularly. When we help others carry the load, we help ourselves too! Sometimes it is for a friend, a family member, or our 4 legged friends that we love.
Linda talks about forgiveness and how it keeps us healthy on a physical and spiritual level. The “formula” sentence she shared is “I forgive (name) for (name the specific offense).” Do this for each offense rather than trying to forgive the person for all offenses and work through them one at a time. We need to clear our minds of things that pull us down and the way someone has hurt your feelings, upset you, degraded your work or disregarded you may need to be pulled apart and deleted. Forgiveness does not mean to forget. It means to feel better about yourself and to move forward. Forgive and forgive and forgive. It will help your heart, your mentality, and your days happier.
Align yourself with a variety of fun times and as a result, you will have a well-balanced life. Relax, play, pray, and enjoy. best of all find people who joke and laugh a lot!
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Creating New Vision and Growth may mean looking at things in a new way. Turning the ordinary into the extraordinary is a skill. It is taking a grassroots look at the bigger things in life. People accommodate and deal with what they have; many cultures really enjoy simplicity in life.
Pump It Up is the site of a celebration site for children. While watching all the children playing there, it got me thinking about kids being engaged in physical activities. The level of sounds filled me with many thoughts. It made me think of how open-minded we can be when we want to expand our visions. How kids so easily interact with friends. Acting on the example kids set for us can help us reignite and build a desire to grow.
What do you need to polish up? What do you need a new perspective on? Is it how you are learning something new. Perhaps you’d enjoy our mastermind group. As a result of joining in you will find opportunities to move ahead rapidly.
Do you have a lot to get done? Linda shares how easy it is to get impulsive and start doing something important late at night. When do sneak things in that have to get done?
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