The Value of Good Mental Health
Each side of our brain serves us and allows us to function well. This was discussed in the last podcast with great enthusiasm. What profession are you in often is often reflected by the side of the brain you use the most to accommodate to life. What profession have you chosen? Why have you gone into that area of work?
Linda talks about creating a Sphinx she created in elementary school and how often our culture and family help develop our talents. You will be able to hopefully think of a time in your life when you too enjoyed a time of learning.
Next Linda shares an experience of being on a bus in Italy that was stalled due to an emergency on the road ahead. It turned out to be a fun and unique event for her. It remains such a good remembrance of how people were able to connect. A normal moment was not tense, but rather a beautiful time. Our minds interpret things in different ways. For someone else, the experience may have been uncomfortable or nerve-racking, but that is because we are from different backgrounds.
Fragrances also connect us to different moments. It is like listening to music. Certain songs take us back to fun or even tragic moments. Have you ever been to an auction? Have you ever experienced something that gets you into a new place? Just think for a moment about a trip to Disney or the local zoo. The characters and animals are entertaining. Our imaginations seem to blossom.
We all learn on different levels. It is good that we perceive things differently because we can share them with one another. So If you are having problems learning or dealing with things, travel and try new pathways.
Pathways to Dealing with Anxiety
1-Have regular exercise or movement as part of your day. Moving helps us get past the anxiety.
2-Stay in the moment and take time to breathe.
3-Og Mandino’s University of Success says the only event in the entire world you can control is what you are you are thinking and feeling at the present moment.
4-Enjoy the weather right now, especially if it is pleasant. Feel the sunshine and the fresh air. If it is raining, feel the moisture as a wonderful thing. Take each day one at a time. Stay in the moment.
What is it that you need to do or accomplish this week?
Is it a language you want to learn?
Linda talks about her Father’s journals. How it went from factual information and costs when her dad was younger. With time the journal entries evolved into feelings and emotions and as time progressed so many other things seemed relevant. You’ll learn why. Listen and enjoy this section..
Learn in whatever way is easiest for you. If it is in art, then express yourself that way. If it is with people, then immerse yourself with them. Perhaps music speaks and teaches you to appreciate yourself. It can be from fragrances, smells, or foods. At every age, we can learn from board games.
Linda is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and also certified by Optavia in partnership with the MacDonald Center for Obesity Prevention and Education & M. Louise Fitzpatrick College of Nursing at Villanova University. She is here to help you feel your best and succeed.
Take the first step forward, it may put you on the escalator of success.
Making choices and decisions can be difficult and many of us are in the process of trying to decide on many different topics throughout our day. We are trying to prioritize what needs to be done and the best way of doing those particular things. Our choices and decisions are ongoing. We are continually making choices and decisions from the time we are small. Today on Mini Miracles from Minor Moments the idea of how to proceed may be helpful for you. Often it the smallest thing that ignites your fire and allows you to elevate your income, the relationships you relish, and the feeling of being accomplished.
Time Changes our Perspective
As we age we make many choices. Choices of exercising or activities that move us ahead. Choices of who to spend time with or choices of when to travel or how we plan a trip. In today’s world, people are making the choice of whether they want the vaccine. One starts looking at the pros and cons. You may be making choices of eating to build a better immune system. Perhaps selecting types of exercise that will be good for you.
Free Up Your Mind
Decisions take on a number of important factors. Just like a computer, our mind needs to be freed up to make wise choices. The best results come from knowing the right path to take. Sometimes we are worried about making the wrong decision and as a result, we let good opportunities pass us by. Indecision and confusion deplete us of energy that could be used to keep us mentally healthy.
The Illustration of Getting a Dog
Linda illustrates how to make choices by telling us a story about her decision to purchase a dog. She asked herself many questions, some may help you come up with questions to ask yourself if you need to look at when you have a decision about jobs, commitments, vacations, or even important things like having surgery.
Are you deciding on going back to school? Are you trying to change your financial situation? Perhaps you need to move to a different size home or help fund a family member?
Steps to Help You Move Ahead
Decisions are not always easy, but here are a few ideas on how one can actually make good decisions. Our choices boil down to a few specific things :1- visualize the destination of your actions and how you can control the outcome, 2- Look at the opportunities available now, 3- What choices are there? 4- Next create habits that are simple, easily repeated, and time focused —even designate a good time to think things through —it may be while taking a walk or getting alone and sitting away from confusion. 5- Put yourself among like-minded people who share your values and commitments—get their feedback. 6- Use humor when things seem too hard to decide.
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“Taking the first step may put you on the escalator of success!”
Hello and thanks for joining me on this 191st podcast. Today we are going to discuss the repercussions and emotional responses that seem to be coming to us during this winter season and all of the news about Corona. So many people are affected by the loneliness and the isolation that has been created this past year. We cannot undo these times, but the way we interpret and deal with them can be uplifting rather than being a downer.
Simply because we are not interacting with one another in the usual way we do, our thinking may be getting cloudy, empty, and irrational. We are not receiving the feedback from others that is so important to us and to our loved ones. Because we are alone, our aches, pains, problems, politics, and isolation causes us to focus on negative situations. Instead, we need to anticipate fun things and have things to plan for as the year evolves. Gardening, hobbies, family picnics, birthdays, weddings, or gatherings can be tentatively planned.
Linda shares an episode with a neighbor and how relevant it is to recall the seemingly insignificant moments. They are in fact the things that bring us joy. As 2021 comes into February we need to connect on all levels to help all of us grow.
Start making tentative plans that will give you something to look forward to and plan. Find books to read. Create a plan for your projects and things to guide you ahead.
The 2nd section of the podcast is on our memories. Just a few thoughts to improve yours and recognize how important they are to all of us. Memories help us deal with losses and with difficult times in life. They are also fun to make with kids, families, and friends.
These short commentaries are not word-for-word of the podcast, so please enjoy listening.
Take the first step forward, it may put you on the escalator of success.
Enjoy listening to a Variety of Important Thoughts on moving forward. These will help you develop the Art of Thinking Clearly
Linda shares about a few highlights from Thanksgiving. Yes, many families and friends connected by ZOOM. The man who created zoom, Eric Yuan, has gotten us beyond physical limitations. We are so lucky to use technology to stay connected.
Staying optimistic during these times allows us to grow. We can help each other. We are able to feel complete. Send Linda your ideas for topics.
SWEET SYSTEMS HELP
A few thoughts on an article from Success Magazine in the January/February 2121 issue talks about practices for setting goals. Although the article is directed at Money goals, Linda shares how these steps can help us in every aspect of our lives.
1-Systems help us, don’t rely on willpower.
2-Allow Habits to move you ahead, don’t focus on outcomes
3-Being flexible helps us; don’t be rigid. See things with humor.
4-Stay committed, but don’t try to be perfect. It is good to complete things.
Take that first step, it may put you on the escalator of success!
What makes things complete for you? Is it good relationships? Finishing a book? Calling your children and embracing them? What makes your life rich? How do I develop the art of thinking clearly? What relationships are important to you? What do you do that makes you feel better? Even though things may be difficult, now is the time to creative something special. It could be a hobby, a new area of learning, or way to make changes intentionally. Get a coach —Call me.
Dealing with losses can be a difficult thing.It causes us to change and adapt to situations. Losses can be dealt with by changing ones perspective. What will bring you joy?
Integrating self care helps us with adapting to our needs and those of others. Linda shares a few ways to help us change our thinking.
What do you need to focus on? With the holidays in full swing we all need to apply new skills and reflect on the things that are wonderful. Are you learning something new?
Be creative, complete things, and be deliberate. Keep a variety in your life. Do small things, as well as, larger things. What feelings are controlling you rather than using good mental thoughts. Make lists. They can be destroyed and torn up but they help us think things through.
Saying YES or NO?
“For I am about to do something new. See, I have already begun! Do you not see it?” ISAIAH 43.:19
Note that these are just a few topics and they are not the "word-for-word content of this podcast!
Oh boy, we seem to be living in a World of Distractions.
Everyone knows it and those who are achievers are constantly trying to keep focused. Here are some bits of help to encourage you to filter some of them out. None of us are exempt from the phone calls, interruptions, and getting caught up in an unproductive mode. First of all, I must say that some people are better at staying focused than others. It takes effort, practice, and a few tools. Perhaps we are creating a whole new generation of attention deficit individuals. Too much to do and so hard to direct our attention to just one thing.
Here are a few clues that might help.
Do only one thing at a time. Prioritize and schedule! If you are working on washing the dishes, do just that one chore. Finish and move on.
If you are driving, by all means, put that cell phone away. We all get distracted. Put it on the dash, with the phone upside down. If you carry a purse or briefcase, put it inside. If you do need to use it, stop in a parking lot or safe place, take care of the issue or call and put it away.
Disconnect your E-mail for the moment. Make time to direct your attention to emails. Clean up the loose ends, and dump the garbage. Once a week, I go through and dump all the Clutter. Set up an extra email if that will help separate unwanted messages. Communicate your needs and timeline to connect with others.
A serviceman for my garage door, called with his situation. It gives me peace to know the schedule and his intentions. Be good to those you work with or for by communicating changes in time or your specific needs! Be sure to express your schedule and keep it in check.
If necessary turn off the music or radio in the car or office. It is easy to begin listening to the announcer or music and now focusing on the tasks at hand.
Turn off the computer sounds, because it signals incoming emails and can defocus you.
Write down and carry your lists with you to keep focused on running errands. It is easy to see something in a store and get sidetracked, but a list will get you the things you needed in the first place. I tend to figure out in my head the pathway to being efficient and list my chores in that order; it helps because distractions pop up even driving. It is easy to be impulsive and then one forgets the places you meant to stop.
Complete the project at hand. This allows a person to proceed clearly into the next item.
Lastly, discard the unnecessary, delegate if possible, and deliver what you can on a timely basis. The day is yours, make it a pleasant one and savor for the small gains!
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Welcome to Podcast 187 and the month of October. Hope you are enjoying the beautiful colors. They bring us an understanding of how to enjoy simple ordinary opportunities that can make you feel awesome.
Simple things help us find Balance
Balancing energy, eating, sleeping, and getting work done helps us enjoy life. Working smarter not longer can make us feel accomplished. How to work smarter and get ahead will make your life easier. Here we tackle a few strategies of the mind and how we can advance. Focus on one thing at a time. Think ahead to get necessary things done for today. Building a Healthy Mindset takes away the idea that you are a victim, but rather you are in control or on a good path towards a goal. Creating small habits and doing small things to advance helps one feel good. Dealing with challenges can also move us ahead in ways we can’t control.
Building a Healthy Mindset
There are options for us like making small changes and habits. Linda shares about her exercise calendar that gave her a feeling of accomplishment. Create habits with a starting point by finding a cue of something you do regularly. Little strategies help us get the final line easier.
There are many celebrations are around events like birthdays, life celebrations, or religious times. Many daily achievements should also be celebrated too. What are your daily wins? What have you gotten done that makes your week full? Laugh more, love more, enjoy more!!!
What has made you happy this week?
Take the next step forward, it may put you on the escalator of success!
Welcome to this week’s Podcast on Conversation. Sometimes this is a problem for some people. Do you doubt about what to share or say? Are you feeling what you experience is worthless? Learning to share thoughts and feelings takes practice and discernment for sure, but listening to another person really helps. Linda shares some ways to engage in good conversation, so continue to listen.
Trying to communicate with others is to really listen and reflect. We need to work on expressing and enjoying one another. We need to be congruent and honest. Where are you when it comes to being authentic? Do you think you are lacking a sufficient vocabulary? Linda talks about some of these things this week.
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Sharing with one another helps us develop self-confidence and self-esteem. We learn to take risks and grow. We are people who need a community to stay well. All of us need one another on a regular basis to stay well. Reaching out on a regular basis is healthy and allows us to feel the joys, fears, and dreams of one another. Putting on our masks at this time is fine if it gives you a chance to engage.
Times of success are important and give us value. We need to share with others the books you read, the doctors you like, the stores that work for you. Talk over the backyard fence, call another on the phone, and connect in ways that aren’t just on social media.
“Take the first step forward, it may put you on the escalator of success.”
If you look around you, you’ll see that children are spontaneous and free. They pretend; they fly through the air with joy and laughter. We all need to go back to a time and place when we felt the same way. What do you want to learn today? What vision do you want to instill in yourself for success? How will you do that? Will you go outside and play? Children are playful and creative. They learn until they are stymied by adults. Are you childlike? Are you happy doing what you do? Can you take the simplest things like a stone and it make it magical?
Gifted children are defined as those that reflect the values of society. In an article on rethinking giftedness, many studies have occurred. It makes me think that we are all gifted in some means. Our ways of thinking, acting and engaging with one another depending on where we live and how we fit into our communities change constantly. We can develop our talents with joy and spontaneity.
For some of us, we want to be deep into nature. We connect to the earth and its beauty through a hike in the country. We walk into a cemetery to pray and meditate. We pick up leaves in the fall, walk through puddles after a rainstorm, or shy away from anything that is fun. We have learned to stop playing and just be serious.
Now is the time to rethink and play. Just like kids trying to catch lightning bugs, you might try to catch the raindrops and pick the flowers. You might smell the dandelions and enjoy the shape of the weeds. This climate and pandemic are in many ways changing our response to life. We can walk more out of doors. We can connect instantly and visit online. Enjoy today. Just believe everything is perfect today. In so many ways that we can’t see, things are improving and making life the best. Be childlike and free today. Move forward with a new step!
“Take the first step, it may put you on the escalator of success!”
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I love markers and the idea that they are bold. They mark things that you want permanently identified. They add color and personality to the things you most frequently use. Some markers are good on metal; others are good on wood. They make special ones for fabric. So why is it we don’t like to label or make permanent marks in life? In the past few weeks, I have been thinking a lot about changes. Last week’s Podcast was about Chameleons and how adaptable they are in their environments. It is harder for us as people to deal with changes. Are you prepared for a Permanent Change? What are some of the permanent changes in your life? Changes that are permanent often happen without our permission and they set a date in our minds. These may include divorces, illnesses, and graduations. We label them as markers of the past and present. We also think of the deaths of significant family members and how they affect us in some way or another. Today’s podcast is all about changes and how we mark them and why they are significant to us.
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So what are the most significant markers in your life?
Can you name them off the top of your head? Probably not easily, you’d have to think about it for a while. Is it graduation from a prestigious university? Perhaps a new profession or a job with a company you really have desired to work with for a very long time? Is it an unfortunate thing, like the death of a family member? Or having to travel somewhere or to see someone who’s sick. It isn’t for an uplifting event! Perhaps it is the year the whole family had a reunion on a family ranch out West? (Linda offers other ideas in the podcast).
Whatever the circumstances, time markers are significant because they can allow you the opportunity for growth and advancement. We don’t always think of it that way, but it is a good thing. Now we are in the coronavirus, but this period in time presents options for us. Options that we intentionally can make. We can decide to enjoy the period of time in our homes. We can decide to take up a new hobby or study for a different profession. In this period of the Pandemic, we can have options presented. We can make decisions to enjoy this period of time or to see what opportunities it will present for us. It may allow us to connect with people we otherwise may not connect with. We can decide to take up a new hobby or perhaps study something you have longed for like a different profession. otherwise, it may be totally different. Someone else may connect with you.
A significant marker in my life was three years ago June. We celebrated 50 years of marriage then, built a 3 seasons Delightful Den in our backyard, and had close family and friends join us. It wasn’t a wild party, but a simple gathering for us. Now that is a marker for me. Since then Tony had dislocated his leg and had surgery, I was able to attend to large conferences in Tennessee, and visited with my older brother who I had not seen in many years. He lives down in Alabama.
As I look back I recognize that the transition from totally onsite counseling has been evolving into online work. That made the transition during this Pandemic a great deal easier for me. It has allowed me to counsel and do coaching regardless of where people are living. It also has given me time to connect with people on the www.lindagullo.com website in addition to the www.delightinliving.com site.
As we approach the month of June, we will see creativity at its finest. We will see countless parades, marriages, and graduations take on new forms of celebrating. Some of these ways will stick around and be norms for the future. For the people who are older though, it may mean a feeling of seclusion from what they once considered normal and a highlight. That means that each one of us who is involved needs to involve them too. Sharing videos and keeping one another connected is a new adventure for all of us.
As the State of Illinois begins to open again and we all begin to step outside of our homes, there are told there will be many precautions in place. You can say I am dubious about that because I am not sure everyone will follow the safety procedures that are to happen. What about you? Do you think people will be considerate of others or do you think they will forget?
I just walked down to the mailboxes from my office and the sun was out and there was no one around. It felt good to feel the sunlight and to carry my mask in hand. My prayers continue for those trying to create a good vaccine to protect us as we move forward.
Changes from this Pandemic Marker in time will definitely affect all of us. Steve Dotto recently said, “Don’t tire rewire.” It is a good slogan for this week. Be creative and take the first step in a new direction, it may put on on the escalator of success. Have a good week everybody. We see you next week.
Note that the written content is not exactly as Linda speaks it--rather it is a summary of some of the content. Please listen and enjoy.
Jim Haisler welcomes Linda to today’s Podcast number 174. This week’s discussion is on accountability and staying centered. It is part of having an Avenue of Self Worth. Linda talks about the “must do” items on your list. Where are you? What is holding you back from accomplishing things you need to do? Are you stuck due to the Pandemic? How can you get around these? Are you stuck?
Linda tells us that we will all be well if we follow through with basic things. What do you feel like doing to keep yourself up-to-date? How do you want to grow? Self Worth includes learning to grow on a consistent avenue.
Linda shares about how she dumps some 200 emails each day, but she is being selective on the sites that teach her new things, shows trends, or engages her. The mini-miracle of this pandemic is that she had been easing into the online world for the last 3 years, so the online transition has been easy.
Being accountable to another person helps you stay committed and honest. A person who can be away from the emotional part of your problem is a good person to get feedback from for a clear view. Ask questions and get information into a good place. Psychology studies tell us things that we need to be accountable to others.
Smart people can make us crazy, but they are also brilliant people. Begin asking questions. Find a person who can keep you on time and task. Linda also suggests using a calendar as feedback. How about you? do you have a mentor or accountability partner? Do you use a calendar where you can see what you need to do each day?
“Don’t downgrade your dream just to fit your reality upgrade your conviction to match your destiny.”
Linda talks about the young people who are finishing classes and graduating. Graduation normally puts closure on our school work. Unfortunately, graduations are not the same during this Pandemic. We need to be disciplined and continue to grow after our formal education ends.
John talks about our Mastermind. Connect with us at www.lindagullo.com/mastermind
WGN is now having on The Rest of the Story with Paul Harvey. A carpenter that worked for Linda and her husband used his lunch break to enjoy Paul Harvey. We need to go to one thing to another just like we learned in school that we wet from one class to another. What must you do the week? Who do you need to connect with for feedback?
Note the 2 C’s in Success and the 2 S’s in the same word:
Connect with others
See things with new eyes Serving others
Seek good counsel
What do you need to do at home? Focusing on getting things done so you feel productive —even it means doing house projects. Write a work to-do list at night — each night list the top 3 or 4 things you need to do. Maybe that includes calling the dentist or getting the roof done.
Early this morning at 7:05 the roofers showed up to our home to remove the roof and begin to prepare it for a new one. Noisy and requiring us to move fast. Because of this event of getting a new roof, it meant that other things needed to be lined up.
Get up, get dressed, and go to the “office.” In this pandemic, (which we will survive) it may mean your guest bedroom is where you have your computer. It may mean the garage where there are jobs to be done or your basement where you are doing mailing from—whatever, get yourself up, and dressed for the job. They found that dressing for the occasion makes it relevant.
What to wear?
A study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology suggested that professionals perform better on tasks when wearing clothes with “symbolic meaning.” In the study, they found that doctors were more focused and performed better at work when wearing a lab coat. Let’s take that information and apply it to ourselves. Maybe it is time to create your own appropriate attire!
In an article on the benefits of school uniforms for students. We learned those mornings are easier for families and that the uniform actually contributed to better behavior throughout the day. I sort of think the same thing when it comes to us as adults. Dressing in a neat blouse and slacks or a suit every day may be a uniform of sorts. During this pandemic, I am still following a routine of getting dressed and wearing what I would to work even if I do not leave the house. It makes me focus and puts me in the right state of mind for sure. Wearing uniforms has often been the decision for schools and some companies. I am tending to return to that form of dressing again myself. It keeps a closet pretty tidy, just very functional. Uniforms can serve us well when it comes to focusing on the tasks at hand.
In the ’50s, people tended to have day clothes for their school or profession. The children had “play” clothes. Most adults and children had dress-up clothes for church or special events. For years I would buy an Easter outfit that would be a dressy piece of clothing that would be for all summer events. People would actually dress up to fly across the country. Dressing up served to elevate our spirits and give us a sense of purpose and self-esteem.
Let the clock be your friend and schedule an actual time to work. Every one of us is different and has a different attention span. Do you know what yours is? I am sure you do. I can work for 2 hours straight and stay focused if I have a special thing to do. that time frame may be different when I am working on other projects. I tend to rush when I cook, as I don’t enjoy cooking like I once did and therefore my frame of mind is not good. Here are 3 ideas: 1-Connect with a colleague, 2-Stop work and treat yourself, and 3-Setting a schedule and plan in place.
This is a difficult time in history because graduates are not able to have the traditional closure due to the pandemic. People are being creative in documenting the events. As adults we too can be creative too with setting an agenda that allows us to leave a full life. You need to continually grow and challenge ourselves.
This week, WGN placed “The rest of the story” back on the radio. Paul Harvey had a unique way of encouraging and informing people about life. It was a lunchtime program that brought comfort to a carpenter that Linda and her husband had hired years ago. Maybe you’d enjoy it now.
What do you need to accomplish? Do you need to connect with loved ones? Are you enjoying life now?
I hope you come back to us every Friday and take the first step forward, it may put you on the escalator of success.
(This is not the script of the Podcast.)