Jim Haisler welcomes Linda to today’s Podcast number 174. This week’s discussion is on accountability and staying centered. It is part of having an Avenue of Self Worth. Linda talks about the “must do” items on your list. Where are you? What is holding you back from accomplishing things you need to do? Are you stuck due to the Pandemic? How can you get around these? Are you stuck?
Linda tells us that we will all be well if we follow through with basic things. What do you feel like doing to keep yourself up-to-date? How do you want to grow? Self Worth includes learning to grow on a consistent avenue.
Linda shares about how she dumps some 200 emails each day, but she is being selective on the sites that teach her new things, shows trends, or engages her. The mini-miracle of this pandemic is that she had been easing into the online world for the last 3 years, so the online transition has been easy.
Being accountable to another person helps you stay committed and honest. A person who can be away from the emotional part of your problem is a good person to get feedback from for a clear view. Ask questions and get information into a good place. Psychology studies tell us things that we need to be accountable to others.
Smart people can make us crazy, but they are also brilliant people. Begin asking questions. Find a person who can keep you on time and task. Linda also suggests using a calendar as feedback. How about you? do you have a mentor or accountability partner? Do you use a calendar where you can see what you need to do each day?
“Don’t downgrade your dream just to fit your reality upgrade your conviction to match your destiny.”
Linda talks about the young people who are finishing classes and graduating. Graduation normally puts closure on our school work. Unfortunately, graduations are not the same during this Pandemic. We need to be disciplined and continue to grow after our formal education ends.
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WGN is now having on The Rest of the Story with Paul Harvey. A carpenter that worked for Linda and her husband used his lunch break to enjoy Paul Harvey. We need to go to one thing to another just like we learned in school that we wet from one class to another. What must you do the week? Who do you need to connect with for feedback?
Note the 2 C’s in Success and the 2 S’s in the same word:
Connect with others
See things with new eyes Serving others
Seek good counsel
What do you need to do at home? Focusing on getting things done so you feel productive —even it means doing house projects. Write a work to-do list at night — each night list the top 3 or 4 things you need to do. Maybe that includes calling the dentist or getting the roof done.
Early this morning at 7:05 the roofers showed up to our home to remove the roof and begin to prepare it for a new one. Noisy and requiring us to move fast. Because of this event of getting a new roof, it meant that other things needed to be lined up.
Get up, get dressed, and go to the “office.” In this pandemic, (which we will survive) it may mean your guest bedroom is where you have your computer. It may mean the garage where there are jobs to be done or your basement where you are doing mailing from—whatever, get yourself up, and dressed for the job. They found that dressing for the occasion makes it relevant.
What to wear?
A study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology suggested that professionals perform better on tasks when wearing clothes with “symbolic meaning.” In the study, they found that doctors were more focused and performed better at work when wearing a lab coat. Let’s take that information and apply it to ourselves. Maybe it is time to create your own appropriate attire!
In an article on the benefits of school uniforms for students. We learned those mornings are easier for families and that the uniform actually contributed to better behavior throughout the day. I sort of think the same thing when it comes to us as adults. Dressing in a neat blouse and slacks or a suit every day may be a uniform of sorts. During this pandemic, I am still following a routine of getting dressed and wearing what I would to work even if I do not leave the house. It makes me focus and puts me in the right state of mind for sure. Wearing uniforms has often been the decision for schools and some companies. I am tending to return to that form of dressing again myself. It keeps a closet pretty tidy, just very functional. Uniforms can serve us well when it comes to focusing on the tasks at hand.
In the ’50s, people tended to have day clothes for their school or profession. The children had “play” clothes. Most adults and children had dress-up clothes for church or special events. For years I would buy an Easter outfit that would be a dressy piece of clothing that would be for all summer events. People would actually dress up to fly across the country. Dressing up served to elevate our spirits and give us a sense of purpose and self-esteem.
Let the clock be your friend and schedule an actual time to work. Every one of us is different and has a different attention span. Do you know what yours is? I am sure you do. I can work for 2 hours straight and stay focused if I have a special thing to do. that time frame may be different when I am working on other projects. I tend to rush when I cook, as I don’t enjoy cooking like I once did and therefore my frame of mind is not good. Here are 3 ideas: 1-Connect with a colleague, 2-Stop work and treat yourself, and 3-Setting a schedule and plan in place.
This is a difficult time in history because graduates are not able to have the traditional closure due to the pandemic. People are being creative in documenting the events. As adults we too can be creative too with setting an agenda that allows us to leave a full life. You need to continually grow and challenge ourselves.
This week, WGN placed “The rest of the story” back on the radio. Paul Harvey had a unique way of encouraging and informing people about life. It was a lunchtime program that brought comfort to a carpenter that Linda and her husband had hired years ago. Maybe you’d enjoy it now.
What do you need to accomplish? Do you need to connect with loved ones? Are you enjoying life now?
I hope you come back to us every Friday and take the first step forward, it may put you on the escalator of success.
(This is not the script of the Podcast.)
I stepped into the office today to do a few essential things and realized I could stay for hours. I love the warmth, the colors, and the layout of this office. I guess I should as it was designed by me for the purpose of providing comfort and conversations with people who are stressed. It made me think that creating warm environments is something I have helped others create in their lives as well. Comfort helps one to feel productive and happy in their workspaces too. We really do need to place ourselves in productive and inviting spaces. Whether it is your laundry room, TV room, or office it needs to allow you to do your best and feel the most productive.
I have a sewing room that I also adore. When I am feeling my best, I am usually doing something creative and fun in there. I have a side hustle of mending, and sewing useful and one of a kind outfits and home essentials. I recently made all new covers for kitchen appliances and doilies to match. It is one of the most enjoyable things I do, but it does take time and concentration. As a result, I designed that room with wide counters and deep drawers several years ago.
I reason I am sharing this with you is that we are all in a time and place when we have to think positively and well. We need to keep ourselves happy and productive. Today I noticed a number of neighbors outside. One was cutting her grass and another was hanging a pot on her mailbox. I put in a few packages of seeds earlier in the week and hope the consistent rains helped them take root. Let me help you feel good about yourself, your goals, and the direction you want to take.
How are you? What do you like to do? Do you like to organize your workspaces? Do you find cooking a pleasure? Are you working in the garden? Building a new mailbox post or something like a piece of furniture? Let this time of quarantine provide a hidden blessing for you.
It is spring and even though it has begun with a different tone, we can all move forward and look at the positivity around us. For me, it is slowing down and enjoying the house more than I have done for a while. It is trying to rebalance the things I enjoy with the chores I tend to dislike. I realize that wasting time is okay. It comes down to understanding our personal purpose for the day.
So what is your purpose today? What do you need to do? Maybe it means sitting with a prayerbook or scripture in hand. Maybe it simply means calling a few friends. Yesterday I had one of the nicest conversations with my sister in law. It was rather by accident. I picked up the phone since my husband was in the shower. Usually, he grabs it right away and the two of us don’t get to chat. We were busy comparing our weather and the recent pandemic scenarios. She lives in LasVegas where the weather was almost 100. Here it was gloomy, raining, and in the low 50’s.
How we decorate and use our buildings can make a difference in how we appreciate and enjoy our environment. Linda talks about the difference in the buildings that she noticed when in Dublin a few years ago. In Kinsale, the buildings were colorful.. Some areas have Squares. Linda talked about how stores had widows that were displayed and allowed people an opportunity to wish and look at. It is different nowadays. Amazon and other sites show us particulars. It isn’t like going into a nursery center and see the flowers, smelling the flowers, looking at the pots, and just enjoy the experience.
Linda talked about a visit to Alabama, Tennessee, and Indiana. Even though they had towns with similar names in each state, each area had a different personality. How can we make the areas we frequent unique and different? How can we make them more pleasant and appealing? This is a time to consider making your environment more beautiful.
What creates an inviting place for you? What do you have a lot of in your home? We have plenty of books. They are in different rooms and have always had them available to our family and friends. Over the years with the changes and ages of our children, books were moved into different rooms.
I also have a Boxer collection that began by accident since I love that type of dog. Over the years and traveling around the world, I would buy these. Some are funny and others are just representative of their expressions or posture. These are things that bring me happiness.
Also, I love Christian things like crosses, pictures, and sacramentals. Whatever we have in our homes, it is important to share it. Our homes help us to enjoy and share the things we love. Use the things you own and let them grace your disposition. Like at the Antiques Roadshow, many of these items may be relevant to one’s family, may not hold value or worth to anyone else.
Linda talked about a Sister of Charity who loved the Cubs. She was a creative spirit. She often worked on her needlework and enjoyed herself as she supervised the girls during events. She had a strong and vibrant personality that still speaks volumes to me.
You can bury a lot of troubles digging in the dirt.
We create solutions by taking actions and changing the direction of our lives. Go outside and look at the sky. Moving just a few feet or taking charge can change your whole attitude for the better. Have a great weekend everyone. Stay safe and enjoy.
TAKING THE FIRST STEP FORWARD CAN PUT YOU ON THE ESCALATOR OF SUCCESS.
The words of the podcast are not scripted entirely here. This is just an overview.
Appreciating the Present Times
Good morning and welcome to Podcast 172. The bright green growth of grass and the greening up of trees and bushes from spring rains have ushered us back into Spring. But it isn’t enough for all of us to enjoy. It hasn’t given us the opportunity to sit back and relax.
In fact, the current pandemic, Covid 19 has tainted our thinking like a black wash that makes everything gray. It is messing with our thinking. Sending shock waves into our economy. Making us anxious to run out of our homes and get on with the once familiar routines we thought were so important. It is scaring people into a mental panic thinking that this will never end and that the effects will be long-lasting. I am not sold on that thinking. We are bright and learned people. We will bounce back rapidly and forget the pain just like a woman does after labor. The pain is remembered, but it doesn’t stop us from having more children. We know the outcomes rich and filled with the joys of parenting.
Yes, the fear of contracting the Coronavirus has destroyed our ability to connect in person with the people we love. Easter was far different this year as we tried so desperately to stay connected to the traditions of the past. For many of us, we missed the gathering together at Church. We longed for the feast of good old custom foods of years gone by. For me it was bittersweet. Rather lonely, just the two of us sitting quietly. It was unconventional in what we ate. I actually made a simple linguine dish for us. Unlike in the past years with parents, children, grandchildren playing and running around. We missed the laughter, silly banter, and hugs. We missed teasing one another and feeling stuffed from all the desserts. Much of this will recreative itself on future holidays, I am sure of it.
Coronavirus is indeed the hot word of the past few weeks. One that none of us want to know about first hand. Even though most of us are dealing with isolation, we are becoming more creative and getting more chores done around the house.
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A section recorded on Saturday as Linda worked on her bookshelves. Looking back in history, Linda talks about her time as a child when Polio was around. She shared about her father having had a leg affected by Polio. She remembers getting the polio shot. Life improved and people felt comfortable. Linda believes a vaccine will be developed and that we will find life more comfortable in connecting once again.
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Are you watching movies? Linda is watching many. She talks about a movie she saw on Friday night about an older couple in their 80’s who were going through a difficult situation. The wife was losing her memory and the multi-level house was no longer safe. She began falling and forgetting where she was. Their 8 children were represented by 2 of them who try to understand, but also struggle to watch their parents. The man begins building a single level home but runs into problems with the community he lives in. He tries to follow all the new rules and has to hire his lawyer to represent him. All in all, it turns out well and the movie left us knowing that the man was 91 and his wife was still alive and with him. they had been married for over 60 years. It was a movie that involved his family and a community of people who had feelings and emotions too.
Like this movie, it helped fill her need for meaning. This pandemic has certainly affected how we are feeling. Staying up late, I noticed that the lights on our 3 season house were not working. We are in a PAUSE, trying to figure things out.
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“In a time of drastic change, it is the learners who inherit the future. the learned usually find themselves equipped to live in a world that no longer exists.” Eric Hoffer
What is your best asset? Let’s face it that the best asset you have is yourself. It is the curiosity that we have within us that moves us ahead. We are curious about a desire to grow and develop and become better. It is so much fun to read a new book or watch someone doing a project. They set examples for us.
There is an internal opportunity within each of us to grow. Curiosity is irresistible. You have the potential to learn so many new things. There is this internal desire to grow and learn. Even those who are able to continue working, we all have opportunities to learn new things. Assign yourself to do something you want to learn or accomplish.
Linda was talking to the man her cuts her grass. It was nice to learn from him about his work and about what is living in our front yard. An unknown critter. There are so many things we know little about and yet we keep getting challenged to learn.
One of the blessings of this virus is that we are able to do things without being interrupted. Take that opportunity and cherish it!
Thanks to Jim Haisler who signs us off each week.
Remember to Take the ONE STEP forward, it may put you on the Escalator of Success.
Coaching can connect you and take you forward.
Education, Motivation, and Spiritually connect to bring us ideas of hope. Where are you at? Where do you want to be? Coaching is a wonderful place to get direction. It helps close the gap from where one is at and directs us to where we want to be. What do you want to improve? Where do you want to go? A Coach can motivate you and give you perspective. They help you discover and help you to be motivated. It is time to seek success and an avenue to follow.
Set goals 5 years out. It isn’t impossible. You may have some dreams that are attainable. Earn the way you want to get there. Maybe you want to beef yourself up through free and new opportunities to learn. U Tube and many online courses give you help. They allow you to put yourself in the right direction. Check them out.
Be creative. Be fulfilled. Are you a numbers person? Do you prefer writings? Are you an adventure-seeking person? Do you want to be physically active or return to an old passion? Now is the time to connect with others. Or perhaps. it is a time to just pray and reflect. Let this time of living through the Pandemic of the Coronavirus as an opportunity to grow and think of the future.
Linda talks about the adventures of growth.
Now we are in the Easter season with changes in weather. Stay alive and well. Let a schedule and give yourself a routine that works for you. Make these opportunities a great one. Move away from the obstacles. Maybe you wanted to change occupations and now may be the time. This is temporary.
Here are 6 ideas to help you:
1-Continue Learning by reading, going online, taking a course, or singing along.
2-Find rewards in your home. Read old letters. Look for books on your shelves. Most of you who listen to me have plenty of magazines and reading materials.
3-When was life fun? Was it when you had a pet? Was it when you rode your bike down the street?
4-Engage in your senses by listening to music, smelling new scents, or perhaps when baking? For me, I am back to cooking again out of necessity and I am embracing it.
5-Making small decisions count by shifting a few details and making small changes is good.
6-Activate a spirit of gratitude by talking to friends on the phone. Step outside and notice the beauty with the weather of the day. Just enjoy something or someone you know.
Here is an activity for you to do!
Make a list of all the people in your past and present. How did each person help you become who you are today? Linda shares an example of how her Grandmother gave her a philosophy to help other people and how to become generous. For her Grandmother set an example that was easy to follow, but the list goes on. That was just one person. It is a fun exercise that you will enjoy.
Have you read any blueprints? What did they offer you? They usually offer us sizes and the direction things are built. We see the details of the rooms, ideas, or options for building something. I am going to help you put systems into place with upcoming workshops. This will help you create your own blueprints. We want you to be part of it.
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Do you know what day it is? I have been stumbling on keeping the day straight ever sense we are quarantined. The week was set by the specific things I did. I used to get gasoline on the same day, at the same gas station, but now I am not using the car as much, so that weekly marker isn’t helping me. I used to go to the church on the same day and same time. Now with the church closed, that is isn’t helping me either. I have started using my husband’s system. He does the laundry on certain days. I am using his schedule now.
How are you keeping the days straight? Are you in a position that is keeping you on track? How are you setting markers on your week? Share with me how are you figuring this out.
I am writing more letters to keep connected with people. I hope it brightens their day, as well as, mine. As we go forward through the Easter Season, find ideas to focus on. We have a skunk (we think). It is still a mystery as to who is digging in our front yard. hear a neighbor has a woodpecker at their home who is mighty busy too. Amazing adventures are all around. Please stay focused and aware. I will continue praying for all of you.
Remember putting the first step forward my put you on the Escalator of Success.
Who Are You?
Welcome to Mini Miracles from Minor Moment where it is the small moments that make an impact in your life. Who taught you and how you do things is unique to each of us! Og Mandino wrote many books, but most recently I am rereading the University of Success. It is filled with stories and ideas for better living, Og helps you reflect on yourself. Listen to today’s podcast as Linda asks a series of questions that might help you to advance.
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If you feel that you are being challenged by tech needs, you aren’t alone. For many people, it is something that wasn’t needed prior to the Coronavirus isolating us from one another. Now you may need to act quickly for your business and to relieve stress that is within.
Technology support is another area you may need to make life easier; especially right now. Well, I have a person who can help you. He has the skills and knows how to direct you. He is great at teaching you too. Just click here to check out John’s services, now is the time. He works on websites, integrations, and desktop needs of all sorts.
There is a weekly show on TV called MOM. It is a show about a group of 6 women that have addictions in their background. They come to rely on one another for support. We usually see them in a restaurant exchanging humorous commentary on a problem. Although they deal with self-made issues, don’t we all?
Our staying in touch with you is really important to me and those I work with here. We relish you and want to serve your mental health needs, to keep you motivated and inspired, and to help you be the best version of yourself. After a lifetime of detours in my own life, I want to help you find value in yourself during these tough times.
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Until next week,
Take one step forward, it may put you on the escalator of success.
Finding perspective in trying times is a challenge. How has your life been disrupted during this outbreak of the Coronavirus (COVID-19)? Can we help you process things? Here at the Delight in Living office, we are doing a lot of our contacts on the phone and thru zoom. No way do we want to leave you in a lurch. If you are feeling the loss of control, or in a place of how to be more resourceful, chances are that you are not alone. All of us are in a new environment. It is good for us to think about how we will accommodate. Self-care and taking care of our families is important. Also teaching one another not to be selfish is the greatest lesson.
“Perspective is the only thing consistently more valuable than the answer itself.” Andy Andrew
Steve Dotto teaches us online techniques. This is a time to teach one another. How to reframe thoughts. We are resourceful people. I am here for you to help you process things. A program on pain is coming up—how to deal with pain and things you are going to deal with. A program on “systems” is also coming up.
We all tried as children to take shortcuts. Here Linda discusses how we can’t always do that. Shortcuts don’t always work. That is when we are called to be responsible and look at the larger picture. How do you take shortcuts? What is the destination you are trying to reach? Do you find things fall into place naturally?
Dreams and Visions
We all need to have a purpose. This is a time to look at them. Set a new series of goals. The question becomes, how can I help to be responsible. This is a time to teach one another balance. Variety in life reflects every area of our life. Eating is only one area in which we can do this. We need to learn boundaries; how to conduct business. How to care for our bodies and the expectations we set for ourselves.
Mini Miracles is designed to help you to stay in the moment. Keep balanced and feeling well is now a new focus for everyone.
Take the first step, it may put yourself on the escalator of success.
What have you lost?
In a world of constant change, we are all dealing with losses. Some are temporary losses like a job, but we still feel the impact on our pride and certainly our pocketbooks. There are losses of companionship. Divorce can be devouring. Daily rituals disturbed by illness or health issues leave us weak and broken. Yet there is a lot to learn from losses and today’s podcast addresses those things.
One thing we all share as people is the pain or emotion that comes from loss. What have you lost lately? Is there a loss of a job? Have you intentionally quit? Linda shares how she intentionally quite a job because of a family situation that was calling for her attention. It still affected her as if she had been let go because she relished the people she worked with the job she had been doing. She was in pain, lonely, and had enjoyed her job. It was an emotional loss indeed. She was grieving.
Life is a maze.
Life is like a maze. How do we fill the voids when we go through grieving? What are the things you have to look at? Are these things happening to you directly?
Often sleep is inconsistent and we don’t do well with little or interrupted sleep. We need the rest to be our strongest and to think clearly. Losses often cause us to lose our focus and clarity. When we have a person who dies, we can also be sabotaged.
Looking for people to help us through these times do exist. Find opportunities to redirect your attention to because it will lift you up and out of sadness. Isolating ourselves is really a danger. Look for good books to read. Go to the library: meet a friend at the bookstore. Make it a good experience to reconnect with others.
Accept the stages of grief and recognize that this maze can be shortened or endured with a little less emotional pain. Connect with people from your church, from your work, from your neighborhood community. Volunteer in your community. There are always food pantries, senior citizen needs, and bingo. These may be temporary placeholders to help you move ahead.
Visually place good things around you that can lift you up. Listen to music to lift your spirits. Take the first step forward, it may put you on the escalator of success.
Labels, Tags, & Stigmas
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Beware of how you interpret Labels and Tags!
Labels, tags, and stigmas can be temporary. These involve all of us. We have been labeled by our parents, teachers, and others along the way. Linda shares a comment she overheard when she was about 6 years old. As a small child in school, one may misinterpret or be confused by things being said. The comments may or may not be true. We also need to be careful not to label others either. Let this story speak to you and how it may help you jump-start success.
We must take into consideration that many tags are not correct. Some tags and labels are holding us back from striving and moving forward! I want to free you from the things that hold you back. As a counselor, I was made aware that the labels and tags used are very dangerous and hold people from enjoying life. Try new things. Throw away the stigmas that may be haunting you.
Invite people onto your team to move forward. Feel free to call our office to talk about things that haunt you or things you need to get past. We can be part of the solution.
Remember to take the first step, it may put you on the escalator of success.
People, Places, and Things
Today’s podcast is about people, places and things. Yes, people, places, and things. We have amazing things to share. Most of us have the same potential to smell, see, hear, taste, and touch. We feel the same emotions. We have feelings that help us be fully alive. This past week I had an opportunity to be in the Land of Imagination with my favorite character, the Illusive Figment of your Imagination. Figment appears throughout Epcot when you least expect to see him. Here you can catch a video of Figment in action.
A few thoughts about Disney World and the joy of being with a 5-year-old with excitement and anticipation in every moment. It is the feelings so many of us once had as kids that we share again with children. When pretending is so much fun, we forget about our problems. Look here as Tinker Bell appears!
Every one has Special Qualities
We are blessed to have diversity in what we do and how we interact with one another. Are you an entrepreneur, a full-time parent. a worker bee for a big company? Are you kind to yourself? Do you feel connected, important, or alone?
Connecting with other people is our own responsibility. We need to make an effort to be connected. Volunteer, get to know others and make new acquaintances. Everyone is important and every effort you extend is important for you and others as well. Take classes, engage in your Park District.
(Are you feeling important and relevant? Call our office, if you need someone to help you move ahead. Linda is a coach and counselor who can help you move ahead).
The times have changed and the way we stay engaged with other people has changed too. Connecting ‘in person’ is still very important. We need the hugs, conversations, and daily interactions with other people. We have the desire to love and be loved. This is just one way to let other people know they are important. They want to talk and for others to listen
Linda wraps up with reminding us to use a journal. Journaling has so many advantages and Linda offers a few today. Lists, pictures, and writing down your favorite quotes may help inspire you.
Remember to listen to Mini Miracles from Minor Moments every Friday. Put the first step forward, it may put you on the escalator of success.
Being Mindful to discover the Solutions that are all around!
How do you solve problems? What are you dealing with now? Here are a few thoughts on that matter. Have you ever found the answer to something you looking for and suddenly you have that “Ah-ha” moment? It is like finding a lost item. Bingo. You find it and the world seems so much better. What are the things you need to do to trust your own judgment and resolve a problem? Are you controlling part of finding the solution? Taking that step forward can happen easily. Listen now.
Tomorrow is another Day!
Sharing your positive thoughts with other people is something that is so appreciated. We all want to be acknowledged and recognized. Everyone has issues and getting through them is made easier when one doesn’t feel isolated! Challenges of our own allow us to help others being challenged.
Perhaps you are being harassed by mental stress, physical pain, or a difficult job? We are running around putting out fires for our teenagers, grabbing groceries so our refrigerators are full, and preparing for the next day or next week. Sometimes worrying about what we are to wear to the next event. Our concerns are with what others are thinking. Our minds are racing and seldom relaxing until we crash in front of the television or from exhaustion. How can we be playful and happy when we are so confused?
My husband was and continues to do one thing at a time. Now he does it out of necessity because of health issues, but he has always done things with deliberation. He takes breaks and yet gets so much done.
When we were in our 20’s, we moved into a new home. A home that was a frame with parts of it to still be built. We had property without any trees or vegetation. It was a canvas for creating an environment we wanted. I look out the window NOW, these many years later and notice all the trees, plants, and beautiful groupings. I think of how we began by moving boulders, accepting plants from others, and working hard to make it our own.
We can also do that with our personalities. We can slowly, but with intent and passion create the ideal life; a life you want. We all have unique looks, gifts, and interests. We need to appreciate and share what we have received.
Are you appreciative of who you are? I have been thinking about that and how we are always trying to be better, smarter, and productive.
That brings me to a couple of simple solutions.
The first is Mindfulness. Much has been studied about Mindfulness. It does not require you to follow any particular belief. Nor is there is a leader to follow. Yet the effects of mindfulness include a reduction of stress, blood pressure, anxiety, depression, physical pain, risk of major medical issues, psoriasis, overeating, smoking, drinking, and loneliness.
Why is it then that we don’t exercise the simple remedy of stopping, sitting, and practicing mindfulness? It does not cost money. It can be practiced alone or with others around you. There is no risk. It is free for the taking, but so few of us take it.
Be mindful. Yes, I am laughing. Being rushed and overwhelmed is more common than not. In listening to a talk on mindfulness, one is reminded to keep the mind full. If you have ever held a baby, one just relaxes and melts. We often become as tranquil as the baby. We are aware of the beauty of a human person.
In this world, it is easy to be distracted. We are urged to read more, do more, earn more, and go more. We are engaged and thinking about the future. We are urged to watch the clock and be places.
Mindfulness focuses a person on the moment. It allows us to fully engaged at the moment. To have fuller moments.
Now I said there was another option and that is prayer. A prayer is also a form of focusing and relaxing. We can center our thoughts on the needs of others. We can communicate with God about our feelings, concerns, and desires to help others. We call upon a supreme being to help us make sense of things that are seemingly wrong. The person you love is ill, or the child you raised is striving for a scholarship. The job you wanted is serving you well and you find a sense of gratefulness for the path that led you there. You may want to relish and share the good things that happened in your week.
My dad would stop at the door of the church each week and bless himself. He would just stand there and seemed so tranquil. He would tell me that he was so thankful to be back and have time to pray and think.
To this day, I find prayer and also times of mindfulness very filling. I find it is where I get recharged and refocussed and I would love for you to have that same sensation and satisfaction.
“We deal with our mind from morning till evening and it can be our best friend or our worst enemy.” Matthieu Ricard
Take the first step forward, it may put you on the escalator of success! Linda’s own!