Part 1 -Teens
Teenagers are like caterpillars. They are growing, stretching, and developing. As they struggle to become an adult many feel ugly, uncoordinated, and awkward. They are growing at their own rate and finding their own way. Some are hidden from danger during this time and others are vulnerable to dangerous prey.
I love teenagers and their enthusiasm to be independent. They are facing a set of circumstances we can only see from an adults point of view. We watch them determine which children will be their friends. We see them try to concentrate, and forge ahead through school and activities. Power struggles begin to emerge.
They explore areas of sex and morality. Their choices may be contrary to their parents. That is hard for the adults around them who have set good examples. Conflicting ideas are difficult to discuss at this time, because “parents just don’t understand”! Lingo changes, song lyrics take on a voice of their own. Styles and hairdo’s become the fad. Families become fragmented. Parents try to protect the younger offsprings from the language and attitudes of the older kids. Tension evolves. Parents who are going through mid life issues or dealing with ill parents themselves are caught in between.
Mentors, good friends, counselors, and teachers are often sought out to help resolve these areas of pressure filled concerns. Good resources for parents may be more necessary than once thought. Trying to stay out of some centers of conflict may be more helpful than getting swallowed up by them. Letting our youth struggle to get out of their cocoons is better than breaking them out too early. Struggling gives us time to gain strength and prepares us for future times of endurance.
From Junior High to High School we begin anew. Our teen is joining with students from a different radius of the community. They are being exposed to different dress styles, learning the layout of a new building, and meeting teachers who may have expectations of them that are different from what they’ve experienced.
Being prepared as a parent is ongoing. When do we step in and when do we let them fly on their own? Knowing your own child is half of the battle. Knowing the scene in your school and community is relevant. If one is not already immersed, now is the time to know the situation and become involved in a circle of friends and organizations.
Stay tuned for Parts 2 and 3. Meantime, “Delight in Living”!