Suggestions on How to Make Decisions
Decisions should not be made quickly or under stress.
- Consult with other people when making important decisions. That includes those who may have walked though the process ahead of you. Elderly people are awesome with providing insights that might help you see things differently. If there is a elderly neighbor or person from church, tap into their wisdom.
- Ask for a 2nd or even 3rd opinion, especially regarding medical choices. This has become a standard of care for many health care providers. Doctors will usually recommend this and do not take offense. I recall when my spouse needed Rehabilitation Care I was caught in deciding one of 3 locations. A friend asked me one question that made the decision simple. It was a clarifying moment.
- Taking a walk can also help; even if it is in a mall and you circle a few times. Move if you can; it helps to us to think more clearly and helps us separate priorities in our minds.
- “Sleep on it”, as people say. Sometimes we need to give ourselves a clear mind. At night, even for those people who tend to be night owls, think more clearly when the sun is shining. The space provided in rest, helps us from dwelling on things.
- A dentist once told me to make a list of the pros and cons list. It makes things more obvious when we can see both sides of an issue written out on paper. Look at the length of time it will take. Is there a cost involved? What is the real issue? Will doing nothing be as good as reacting? A journal entry into our notebooks also may help to clear the cobwebs. The paperwork can be destroyed later.
- Look at all the options. Things are not black and white. Sometimes clarity comes in the middle. Ideas and resolutions come from opportunities that we cannot see. We may need to take things in steps.
- Consult with a higher power. Prayer is mighty helpful. Silence and being present with God is good. For me, I think God wipes away all the unimportant facts and helps empty the clutter that confuses me. Healing, grace, and forgiveness come into play. One can dump the anger with a little prayer time.
Hoping your decisions get easier throughout the day. “Delight in Living”
