What Depression?
Yesterday I was going through my normal day, when I heard the broadcasters discussing Paul McCartney. Recently he has opened up about his depression following the break up of the Beatles in 1970. Now that he is in his early 70’s, he was reflecting on this strained time. It was a difficult period of time for him; his wife Linda helped to bring him forward and refocus.
He had been with the Beatles for a long time and suddenly the loss of these close friends was unbearable. He related it too army buddies who are supportive and connected to one another during their time of service. After their release back into society, things are not as they left. People around them have to readjust too. It is difficult to separate from the security of friends and explain that to those back home who waited. One must acclimate and readjust.
When times of transition happen in our lives, there appear many unknowns. What will I do now? I am so lonesome, who will fill the void? Who will support me emotionally and in my career? How do I begin again? Sadness takes hold of us. Time is needed to process and yet being alone isn’t good. We need people around us to reflect reality for us. It is time to mourn and yet dance to new music.
The good thing about Paul sharing this is that so many people are depressed and keep it inside. It would have been good if had shared this earlier. It may have helped other people. Entertainers, public figures, and professionals are people, too. They hurt so much and aren’t always able to share. They become the headline of the day upon their self imposed death.
It takes courage to be open and to share knowing it could affect their professional success. Often they feel they are the only people that are lonely or despondent! They don’t know what or how to respond to circumstances.
Drinking, drugs, and bad habits like overeating or dormancy can take over. These conditions make things worse. One loses perspective. Minds get cloudy and confused and behaviors tend to bring everyone around us down too.
All of us have emotions. We have feelings and times of loneliness. If you are on a natural high and tend to be joy filled, by all means reach out to those who aren’t. Good feelings can be contagious too. So here are a few thoughts:
1-As counselors, coaches and professionals, we are here to serve and help.
2-Take one day at a time.
3-Place yourself among happy, healthy and vibrant people.
4-Physically get up and start with a simple walk.
5- Go places to be with other people. Laugh and play as children do. They make things fun.
This child was at a Department Store imitating store models. Fun was spontaneous. We all need to enjoy “the moment” at hand!
6-Eat well, but in moderation.
7- Listen to music, take up a hobby, learn a new skill–Just do it!
8- All things are temporary and better times will come around. Hang on, stay productive in some way.
9-Volunteer your services and time. It helps to value yourself and keep you purposeful.
Good news is just around the corner, “Delight in Living”! Mini Miracles are present in Minor Moments!