Dealing with Disappointments?
Have you run to the mailbox in anticipation for something special? It isn’t there.
Have you been checking the front door to see if your package came? No package arrives.
Are you looking at that cell phone all day in anticipation of getting a new job? Just sales calls!
How about checking the email every hour in hopes of an invitation? Nothing you’re waiting for is coming!
The raise you were waiting for has been put on a “freeze”. No raises for 6 months.
The only day off and it is sleeting out. So much for that motorcycle ride to Wisconsin.
Don’t let a disappointment hang over your head like this threatening cloud! Do something to get over it fast.
Well disappointments come in all different packages. As kids we are disappointed we can’t go swimming, because of the rain and lightening. Our field trip was cancelled due to the buses breaking down. The day to leave on vacation and one of our siblings gets the chicken pox; the vacation is delayed.
Don’t let a disappointment hang over your head!
So I offer 3 ways to deal with disappointments.
First, share the disappointments with someone. Even if it’s in passing with the grocery store clerk. Simply say, “This has been one tough day, I have been so disappointed. Do you ever feel that way?”
It is so healthy to bring things up like this and get it out. Sounds simple and it is. A conversation can help deal with these minor issues. Or call a friend, if the disappointment is more personal. Share with a clergy person or someone you trust. Share the incident and your feelings too!
2ndly, put things into perspective. Tomorrow is another day and things happen for a reason. If necessary make a call to follow up on the failed delivery or whatever the situation is if that can help. If not, move on. We don’t want to hold on to grudges. It is bad for us to internalize and it distorts the way we act, as well.
3rdly, focus on something else of greater importance. Can you help someone else in need? Is there something else to do?
Finally, be part of the resolution in whatever way possible so you don’t make yourself the victim. Enjoy your day and “Delight in Living”!